I Do

Before the world-renowned "The Secret" came out; it was always encouraged for a person to write down goals, and or plans and or create "lists" in order to elevate your life and self to a higher plateau.  I've done it, you've done it...we've all done it!  It's just a part of this crazy thing we call life!  Everyone wants the BEST and no one has a true secret to living and or obtaining this success other than hard work, prayer, determination, yada, yada, yada...you get my point.
Back a few years ago, true to form I did the same "list" for the do's in a relationship I want and the do's of a great boyfriend aka future husband I want.  Suffice to say; the contents of that list haven't manifested quite yet (sad face here...maybe NOT!!!)   
Back two years ago; a new friend of mine said she had done something similar...but not because she wanted to, but because it was one of the requirements of a dating site she joined.  With this particular site you have to tell them exactly and specifically what you were "looking for" in a mate.  She said, contrary to my story, that the moment she took it seriously and honestly and realistically (key word here is REALISTICALLY) she pressed the send button on her computer for the site to do it's magic...and it did.  She said within a month she had found the man, that now she's been married to for five years, of her dreams and he was exactly what was on the list! 
I say all of this to say, I believe in fairy tales.  As grown as I am and as much natural wisdom that I have...I STILL to this day believe in fairy tales whole-heartily!  You should too! (wink)  Don't let someone tell you what you're too "grown" to be doing!  (I loathe that...blogging on it later)
Make yourself a list.  It doesn't haven't to be because you're joining a dating site either!  Just create a list of REALISTIC qualities you want in your mate.  Don't limit or chew yourself apart either.  If it's long...let it be long.  If it's short...allow it to be short. 
Make the list about you!  Not what you're mama or dad wants for you.  Not what your bestfriend of thirty years thinks you are worth.  Not what your co-worker told you to look for in a mate, but what YOU desire in a mate!  Make sure to include your deal breakers in there as well (see previous post) because they are fundamental and should actually help guide your list! 
And lastly, once you make the list...keep your BIG mouth shut about it!  It's not for you to share...especially with potential dates and mates!  They shouldn't know what you're looking for...they should only know once you fall in love...that they were EXACTLY what you wanted!  (aaaawwww, such a sweet story for someones happily ever after!)

Peace, Lots of Love, and Hair Grease,
Khrystian Nichole