Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Sunday, June 2, 2013
Saturday, January 16, 2010
The Honeymoon's Over
A good friend of mine and I were discussing relationships and among the many faucets of the conversation was the topic of the longevity of said relationships. There is a period in any relationship where you get so comfortable with your significant other and so emotionally stable with them that it’s only natural that you have let go of any and all inhibitions.
This is the moment I refer to as “the honeymoon’s over.” This is when things are not quite the way they used to be when you first met. The old folks call it “courting”. Putting your best foot forward all of a sudden is not what that is. Usually, during this period, the couple feels free to release all bodily functions (burps, pass gas, etc.). Where excuse and pardon me were once said, it’s replaced with laughs and giggles. Whispers of sweet nothings in your ear are swapped for loud shucks and jives. Beauty, baby, sugar-pie honey bunch are exchanged for dog, goofy or a simple no tag.
The endearing, romantic intentions you came up with to surprise and sweep your mate off their feet become few and far between. When before, money was no object, you find yourself crying budget. To take the place of spare no expense and order whatever you like, you say we don’t need that or let’s just share. All of a sudden there’s no need to spend every moment together, instead you see each other too much. Someone needs space.
I could go on and on about the infamous honeymoon’s over stage. I could even go so far as to describing my own relationship as in that period, because let’s face it after 11 months with the same person; for a woman (or anyone for that matter) that’s not use to long term relationships; it could get tedious and mundane.
However, I can’t feed into the negative energy of bashing a good thing. As easy as it would be for me to highlight negative aspects of my relationship, let’s face it; you’re lying if you say your relationship is perfect. There are imperfections in every imaginable relationship. They take work. But the work can be and should be worth it.
I have to say that after 11 months: I am STILL in the honeymoon stage! I still get surprises that give me smiles, I don’t tire of our moments together; actually, I have the most fun when he’s around. Romanticism is an everyday occurrence, and pet names are insatiable. My relationship is A-okay and full of adventure!
So, for me, the honeymoon is far from over! Can I promise I’ll be writing this same thing this time next year or whistling a happy tune?? Nope, but a girl sure can live in the moment! :)
This is the moment I refer to as “the honeymoon’s over.” This is when things are not quite the way they used to be when you first met. The old folks call it “courting”. Putting your best foot forward all of a sudden is not what that is. Usually, during this period, the couple feels free to release all bodily functions (burps, pass gas, etc.). Where excuse and pardon me were once said, it’s replaced with laughs and giggles. Whispers of sweet nothings in your ear are swapped for loud shucks and jives. Beauty, baby, sugar-pie honey bunch are exchanged for dog, goofy or a simple no tag.
The endearing, romantic intentions you came up with to surprise and sweep your mate off their feet become few and far between. When before, money was no object, you find yourself crying budget. To take the place of spare no expense and order whatever you like, you say we don’t need that or let’s just share. All of a sudden there’s no need to spend every moment together, instead you see each other too much. Someone needs space.
I could go on and on about the infamous honeymoon’s over stage. I could even go so far as to describing my own relationship as in that period, because let’s face it after 11 months with the same person; for a woman (or anyone for that matter) that’s not use to long term relationships; it could get tedious and mundane.
However, I can’t feed into the negative energy of bashing a good thing. As easy as it would be for me to highlight negative aspects of my relationship, let’s face it; you’re lying if you say your relationship is perfect. There are imperfections in every imaginable relationship. They take work. But the work can be and should be worth it.
I have to say that after 11 months: I am STILL in the honeymoon stage! I still get surprises that give me smiles, I don’t tire of our moments together; actually, I have the most fun when he’s around. Romanticism is an everyday occurrence, and pet names are insatiable. My relationship is A-okay and full of adventure!
So, for me, the honeymoon is far from over! Can I promise I’ll be writing this same thing this time next year or whistling a happy tune?? Nope, but a girl sure can live in the moment! :)
Saturday, October 4, 2008
I'm in Love
Have you ever been in love?!
The consumable, uncontrollable, and most definitive feeling in the world. I'm not talking about the type of love that is known when a mother loves her son, or the love of a bestest friend, or even the love of a pet; I'm talking about the love that is not forced or innate, it's nurtured over time like a seed planted in fertile ground and watered and lit by the light of the sun, so it grows healthy, strong and full bloom.
I have found my true love...REAL love. Kind, patient, not boastful, or envious, or proud. I am in LOVE!!
I've known it for awhile and only now have the courage or the words to put it down.
I am so in love I'm smiling as I write this blog. I smile with the thought, I smile daydreaming, I smile driving to meet up. I get butterflies; just like we've never met, even though we are old friends...
There has been some distance between us. But you know they say, in love, the shortest distance is too far and the greatest distance can be bridged. We have had many mishaps and misunderstandings, stumbling blocks and trip ups; as most do. Wounds have been healed, bones have been mended. Sometimes the pace gets hectic and crazy, sometimes we get a little offbeat, but we've learned to improvise, keep smiling, keeping it moving. We've settled into a really satifying groove. It is so always the greatest feeling in the world to know love is recipricated. I have learned to go with the flow and move in a steady rhythm. So the music can be turned up, the tempo can change; but my LOVE remains constant.
The consumable, uncontrollable, and most definitive feeling in the world. I'm not talking about the type of love that is known when a mother loves her son, or the love of a bestest friend, or even the love of a pet; I'm talking about the love that is not forced or innate, it's nurtured over time like a seed planted in fertile ground and watered and lit by the light of the sun, so it grows healthy, strong and full bloom.
I have found my true love...REAL love. Kind, patient, not boastful, or envious, or proud. I am in LOVE!!
I've known it for awhile and only now have the courage or the words to put it down.
I am so in love I'm smiling as I write this blog. I smile with the thought, I smile daydreaming, I smile driving to meet up. I get butterflies; just like we've never met, even though we are old friends...
There has been some distance between us. But you know they say, in love, the shortest distance is too far and the greatest distance can be bridged. We have had many mishaps and misunderstandings, stumbling blocks and trip ups; as most do. Wounds have been healed, bones have been mended. Sometimes the pace gets hectic and crazy, sometimes we get a little offbeat, but we've learned to improvise, keep smiling, keeping it moving. We've settled into a really satifying groove. It is so always the greatest feeling in the world to know love is recipricated. I have learned to go with the flow and move in a steady rhythm. So the music can be turned up, the tempo can change; but my LOVE remains constant.
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