Buzz Word

I'm sorry and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive to those that have experienced bullying in any form or fashion. I have the upmost empathy for you, as any form of verbal, physical, or mental bullying is outright wrong, humiliating, and could cause serious psychological long-term effects. 

I must. I'm obligated. I'm led to put out there however, that "some" of us have taken the term to an entire different level. It's ridiculous! You, if you have experienced or made these claims are, in fact, making a complete mockery of the seriousness of those affected by bullying! 

Bullying is defined as the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or impose domination over others with forms of aggression. The behavior is (often) repeated and habitual. 

Bullying is not: 

1. Looking at

2. A "perceived" insult or rude comment

3. Not being "friends" with

4. Disagreeing

5. "Accidentally" doing anything to you 

6. Getting shoved or pushed in a small, yet, crowded area 

7. Debating or Confrontation 

The list could go on, but these are some of the "bullying" tactics said individuals are using to make a mockery of a serious matter.  A more timid individual or quiet individual is no more a "victim" than an outspoken individual or boisterous individual is a "bully"! 

Building "intimidation" in your mind or feelings of inferiority is your own insecurity rather than everyone else around you is victimizing you. Ralphie in A Christmas Story got bullied. The Karate Kid was bullied.  Your child is not getting bullied because another child doesn't like them. 

Children make faces...so do adults! 

Children hurl remarks and sometimes insults...especially in competition...so do adults!

Children gossip...so do adults!

Children disagree...so do adults!

Children fight...so do adults! 

The point of if all is that life won't always be lollipops and gum drops! Everybody won't always think your idea is the best. Everybody won't always like working with you. Everybody doesn't want to be your friend. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone won't want to sit by you...especially of you stink! Everyone will acknowledge our differences. Everyone won't understand our differences. Everyone isn't born on the same level and everyone won't die on the same level. There is a season for everything and everyone. 

If you walk around believing everyone is on your side...you are sadly mistaken! There are lions crouching at our doors! 

I'm not telling anyone that it is ever ok to be bullied, or accept bullying....if it is indeed bullying! But what I am saying is chill out with the use of the buzz word. There are really people experiencing terror daily from abuse: mental, physical, verbal! 

Lay off the caffeine! Stop taking all these "medications" for nerves or other created disorders that cause anxiety, tension, stress, heightened anything else. Get out the house! 

Exercise more! Build your own self up! Stop the expectations from others! And if nothing else...PRAY!