Thursday, August 12, 2010

Broke, Busted and Disgusted!

LMAO!  I have to laugh (real hard) out loud as I write the title to this post.  A friend of mine always says that...and each time she does, it just tickles me!  LOL!  Today's blog has to do with "people" that like to offer advice about everything.  From living to finances.  They are the one's always telling you what you should be doing or how you should be doing it...and you know what?!  They are not in any type of authority to do so!  Meaning they are broke, busted and disgusted!  They don't have their life together or they're not making any strides to do so, but yet they have the nerve to tell you where to go and how to get there!
Truly they need to sit the H. E. double hockey sticks down!!
Believe me-I am a firm believer of not re-inventing the wheel, and I truly believe in the mantra; "If you want what I got, do what I do."  Those are true statements.  You should have people in and around your life that are successful and/or doing things you consider worthy of praise to look up to and receive advice from!  And if they are truly successful; they have no problem offering advice when asked or giving you pointers.  Let;s be clear! I am not talking about them.  I'm speaking about the idiots that, "hate you cause they ain't you"!  They're consistently struggling in life and can't stand the fact that you're in a better and greater position than them.  They won't say these things or act any certain way specifically, but they are the true frienemies. (read my previous blog about frienemies)
They compare themselves to you at your age and tell you all about what they were doing at the age you're at but then be 40, 50, 60, heck maybe older and doing the same things you're doing.  Having the same struggles and hardships!  (i.e. first time home-buyer, no kids, no spouse, no formal education, etc.)
*Advice is great, especially when someone has "been there done that"...but NOT if they're STILL there and doing it!*
Cases in point:
1. An older "friend" tells you how you should be spending your money and what you should be doing with it. i.e (buy a car)  They're telling you to buy a car, or ragging (do people still say that word?) on you for not having a brand new car or up-to-date car, yet the car they drive (if they even have one) is not in their name; because their credit is so smoked off all they are eligible for is pre-paid debit cards and they couldn't afford to buy a cash car if their life depended on it.
2. You live at home or with a relative. (like, keep it real...most do!)  Some people just "stay" with somebody because they can't or won't get their own place, and some people choose to do it because they are financially able to do whatever it is they want. (whatever!) They are telling you how badly you need to be in your own place or that you're not independent!  You're too dependent, they say.  Well, they aren't even living in a house they bought, or even an apartment of their own; they are staying, either with a live-in boy/girlfriend, or a place that a family member just allows them to live in.  Or my personal fave...they always have to borrow money just to make their mortage or rent!  Okay, so you don't borrow money for mortage or rent, but you struggling to make your ends meet every month and robbing Peter to pay Paul.  How dependent is that?!
3. (Everybody's favorite!)  The single-ass person that wants to let you know what they would or wouldn't put up with if they were you.  How much they'd be out of the relationship if they, "did me like that", or "said that to me".  Of course it is the eternal bachelor that always has something to say.
4. You don't cook as often as they claim they cook.  But in actuality; the food they cook comes into a hard eighth place up against Alpo, the dog food, and they have the nerve to tell you, you need to learn how to cook and cook more often! 

~Just because you make a baby doesn't make you a good parent.
~Just because you have a job doesn't make you an invaluable asset to the company.
~Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean it's a good one or that you're spouse is in it with you. (ouch!)
~Just because you went to school doesn't mean you're smart.
~Just because you learned about it doesn't mean you know it.
~Just because you write a blog doesn't make you a writer (stepping on my toes...I can handle it LOL!)
~And just because you have a voice and an opinion doesn't mean someone wants to hear it!

All I'm saying is...worry about yourself.  Sweep around your own front porch, before you come trying to mop mine!  And lastly. Get a Life!

XOXO,
Khrystian Nichole

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