Tuesday, February 23, 2010

!Word to the Wise!

Please be careful in life with those that you call your friend; those that you associate with, those you confide in, those who you enjoy a good time with. A honest and true friend is rare. The friend that you can count and depend on. And there are so many magnitudes of friendship. Many people believe in the saying keep your friends close, but you're enemies even closer. Well I don't need an enemy close to me. ( in fact, remove them please and thank you!) lol! I also think it's rather unhealthy to have frienemies!
I say be careful and tread lightly with folks you call a friend because there are some people in the world that are miserable. They weren't born in misery (well not all) and weren't born miserable (well not all) but they have gotten miserable with age and time. It could be due to life circumstances or poor judgement on their part, but whatever their excuse; they're miserable! Let's face it: Misery mos def loves company. So now; they'll pretend to be your friend: laugh at your jokes, extend a shoulder to cry on, offer you sound advice, and wish you well in all your endeavors. However they're the same friend that hopes you fail, gives the advice they followed to get them in their shitty predicament ( I just love that metaphor, haha), laughs when you cry, and gives a side eye to your jokes! Sound familiar?!...Maybe not. Your "friend" is probably well disguised. Or revealed as the frienemy!
The frienemies are just that! There's no special formula to them...they are the enemy that attempts to be your friend. Many times they are so envious of you...your life; they desperately just want to be around you...know you...understand you. They are misguided and don't know how to be a friend! So...They challenge everything you stand for! Some of them don't just challenge; they actually work double time to disprove, discredit, and flat out dis-count you. Some people thrive on a competitive edge; however, they don't actually challenge to uplift you what so ever. Their main concern or goal is to crush you under their heel! Sound harsh?! It's because it is!
The next is the age old saying: keep friends close and enemies closer-WHY!?? Please somebody that believes in that comment and explain! Enemies aren't in your life for anything other than to be a footstool, so accept it, allow the Forward Motion (notice my plug ;) and leave them there! In fact, having that enemy or hater should just drive you further along! The difference between a hater and an enemy is their approach!
At least the hater is bold enough to reveal themselves and make it known, meanwhile; you probably have someone in your life right now that's been a hater since Pre-k! SMDH! so be careful with your inner circle. You don't have to dismiss friends, you'll just be cognizant of the people you trust with your life. Aspire to surround yourself with positive, uplifting, good and whole-some people! You'll be glad you did!
"Change your attitude, change your life!"
~Khrystian Nichole

1 comment:

Kathryn Cunningham said...

You are really on it with this blog!! I've always limited who I let close to me.