Khrystian's New Year Tid-bit

Just because it's a NEW year approaching doesn't make it "time" for changes!!  Do that ish YEAR-ROUND!

BITCHASSNESS Finale 2010

So this happens to be a petty, emotional, and disturbing twitter beef at it's finest!  Decipher through it if you must...take a side if you choose...but just know that Raz B (today...through this) got some much needed FREE publicity and Chris Brown has his publicist crying right now!! 

» chrisbrown Chris Brown
@razb2k AWWW YOUR butt hurt!!! literally.. i cant .. i gotta stop

10 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

RAZBFACT: he can braid a niggaz hair with his toes!!!!! C'mon son

14 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k you have a lower back tattoo that says "different strokes"

20 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k... you didnt get raped??? so that means you liked it.. #EPICFAIL

23 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k merry christmas.i just gave you 20 thousand more followers.. u shouldve did this first instead of telling the world you got raped.

32 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

YOUR NAME IS @RICKYROMANCE HOW GANGSTA IS THAT!!!!.... PEANUT HEAD ASS !!!!

36 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@RICKYROMANCE all that tough guy shit is for the birds!!! im good in LA homie.. remember that!!

42 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1HaaYrFkKDw I CANT... JUST CANT... lmao

51 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

this is entertaining to me!!!!

55 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

http://twitpic.com/3kyixr / @razb2k
1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown
This argument lasted longer than your career @razb2k
1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k when you fart it whistle #walnutbandit

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k ur a x backup singer!!!!! What do u make? Like $1.99 an hour

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k it's funny how I'm nominated for 3 grAmmys off of a mixtape and ur scrambling for change!!

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k when I need tips on how to demolish my career I'll call ya!!!!!

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

I'm not homophobic! He's just disrespectful!!!

2 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

I'm not mad though!!! I'm just not silent nor am i one of these scary R&B cats!!

2 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

I ain't deleting my tweet either!! I was minding my damn business and Peter pan decides to pop off!!! # whatalame

2 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

Tell me this @razb2k!! Why when the money was coming in u won't complaining about getting butplugged! #homothug!!!

3 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » chrisbrown Chris Brown

@razb2k nigga you want attention! Grow up nigga!!! Dick in da booty ass lil boy

» razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@chrisbrown Dude you must really like Dudes! or you just a B2K fan! and this is how u spend 3hrs to show your true support!

8 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

My step-dad is doin 25 2 life 4 abusin my mom &; i heard U say ur mom was abused &; this is how u represent urself by disrespectin WOMEN?!

26 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@chrisbrown u victimize victims, ur a homophobe, ur on the down low &; a woman beater. Merry Christmas &; thx 4 showin every1 ur true colors

28 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@Chrisbrown Since you took this that far! Dude, i wasnt Raped! what a disrespect to every Kid around the world that has been Molested!!!!!

31 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

hey followers.... i want to apologize for fostering homophobia tweets.. this has nothing to do against my followers...

36 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

a friend told me to fall back.... says it would be wise @EricalanePr

40 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply » MarcusPaulk Marcus Paulk by razb2k

"@chrisbrown: http://twitpic.com/3kyixr / @razb2k lol" awwwwww lmfao damn

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@chrisbrown and his BOO.@AndreMerritt http://twitpic.com/3kz55c

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

Fall back @RickyRomance I got this #Womenbeater

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K @

@chrisbrown you steady talking about your career and homothugs but you have yet to respond about your boyfriend @Andre_Merritt

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

DON'T TRIP @ERICALANEPR this nigga disrespecting me

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

yo @chrisbrown i heard about all yo BoyFriends &; tell yo cheerleader @1omarion 2 shut the fuck up b4 i send J BOOG 2 fuck HIS MaMa again

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

Ur not homophobic, ur juz homosexual on the low! RT @chrisbrown I'm not homophobic! He's just disrespectful!!!

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@chrisbrown I luv how u resort 2 disrespectful low brow tactics when u clearly sabotaged ur own career by beating women!

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

@Chrisbrown Do you hit your boyfriend @andre_merritt like you do your women?

1 hour ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

RT @ManDown2012 Y ppl gettin mad @razb2k for the comment on @chrisbrown hey its true he diesrespected @rihanna (cont) http://tl.gd/7pu2hm

5 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K @

@uSHOUT_Breezy Actually i recorded the song before @ChrisBrown

5 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

Coffee Break....Hold on Be right back!

5 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply » razb2k Skype me RazB2K

Im just sittin here Thinking how can niggas like @ebenet & @ChrisBrown disrespect women as Intelligent as @HalleBerry11 @Rihanna

5 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply

  Immature, Ridiculous and Stupid

Just to think...I was Raz B's personal assistant for about 15 minutes (real life)!!  Oh how my life would be on another track had I seriously taken that job!!
~smooches ;-)

Deal Breakers

Dating and being in a relationship, both are hard work!  It takes patience, time, effort, compassion, effort, trust, respect, effort, and a special kind of person, among many other adjectives I'm not in the mood to write.  Did I mention effort?  Oh okay...I did!!! LOL! 

In deciding that you want to be with someone and love them for who they are; you also have to decide that you will love yourself FIRST and foremost, and understand your deal breakers!

Deal breakers are the absolutes of any serious relationship you may have.  Without being on one accord with your deal breakers, your relationship is in for a world of trouble, heartache, fights, arguments, trials and tribulations, I mean utterly doomed!  Okay, I'm being dramatic but I'm serious as a heart attack!  Here they go...in my particular order:

1. Religious differences- Are you catholic and he's Jew?!  It matters come Christmas!
2. Moral differences- This could save you trips to jails, clinics, law offices...the whole shaBang! You get it!
3. extreme Social differences- You don't want to feel ostracized for who you are, do you?! 
4. Economic differences- It might not matter what they have...but it definitely matters their GOALS and life-long dreams!

Flirty Thirty!

I had a BLAST for my Flirty Thirty! Lots of dancing, lots of drinking, little drama, lots of laughing, lots of flirting, and lots of questions!!!!  I'll save the answers for those that have direct access to me ;) Because trust and believe...you have ASKED! LOL!
All in all; I was happy to see my Sorors, Frat, co-workers, family, new and old friends!!  I saw friends I hadn't seen in years...since highschool (so over 10 years), friends that don't live in the same city or state came down too!!  I was just ultimately satisfied and complete with the night!  I had a BLAST!  So much so; I didn't get to pass out the keepsake shot glasses I had for all the guest!  It was also such a great turn out...the owner of the place gave ME money and wants me to host another party...NOT!  Never again will I work with him!  He can keep his pipe dreams LMAO!!

Obsession versus Love

The dictionary defines an obsession as this...
obsession ob·ses·sion (əb-sěsh'ən, ŏb-)
n.
1. Compulsive preoccupation with an idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
2. A compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion.

I'm writing this blog today because many people, maybe even YOU, confuse "love" with obsession!  Maybe you've never been in love, or maybe you've been in past abusive relationships (family, friend, spouse) that now you don't really know what love is supposed to feel like, or maybe you think you've found your soul mate and this particular relationship is heaven-sent!  I don't know, even understand, or want to fathom the reason for said emotions and obsessions, but as always; I've googled it...done alittle research and have come up with my answer to the difference between LOVE and OBSESSION!  Follow along...

In this particular article I read it says there are four phases of an obsessive relationships progression and each one carries unique behaviors.  It's categorized on a wheel in the phases of: attraction, anxiety, destruction and obsession.  They relate these phases to a wheel, because it continually goes on and on like some sort of sick merry-go-round!

ATTRACTION PHASE:
In the article they say; this is the initial phase or beginning and can be designated by an instant and/or overwhelming attraction to another person. They say at this point the relationally dependent person becomes "hooked" on a romantic interest, usually resulting from the slightest bit of attention from the person they are attracted to.
Here are the red flags...
• An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few minutes of meeting.
• An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.
• Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics while ignoring personality differences.
• The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.

ANXIOUS PHASE:  also known as Phase 2
This turning point, which usually occurs after a commitment has been made between both parties.
Here are the red flags...
• Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.
• An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.
• The need to constantly be in contact with a love interest via phone, email or in person.
• Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and tension.
• The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.

OBSESSIVE PHASE:
Here is where it becomes unhealthy!!  It is at this point that obsessive behaviors reach a high degree and ultimately overwhelming the total relationship. At this point the person being the object of obsession begins to pull back and ultimately, severs the relationship. This phase, as said by the article, is when the obsessive begins to lose control!
Here are the red flags...
• The onset of "tunnel vision"  The obsessed can't see, think, or maintain without wanting and desiring to be with the other person.
• Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to love interest's place of residence or workplace.
• Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety. (especially if THEY are doing the cheating)
• "Drive-bys" around a love interest's home or place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is at where "he or she is supposed to be."
• Physical or electronic monitoring activities, following a love interest's whereabouts throughout the course of a day to discover daily activities.
• Extreme control tactics, including questioning a love interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the goal of manipulating a love interest into providing more attention.

DESTRUCTIVE PHASE:
It represents the destruction of the relationship, due to obsessive behaviors, which have caused a love interest to understandably flee. For a variety of reasons they say; this is considered the most dangerous phase.
Here are the red flags...
• Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).
• A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.
• Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.
• Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a love interest for breaking off the relationship.
• Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" by making promises to "change".
• The use of drugs, alcohol, food or sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.

Check yourself before you wreck yourself!  Just a'lil research I thought I'd share   ;) 

For more info on the subject of obsessions; do the research yourself...but if you'd like the link to the article I read...here ya go:
www.enotalone.com/article/2499.html

Single Girl Gem::

Be your OWN self-motivator!!
Stop relying on constant validation from a damn man! (it's sickening)  Plus, you really don't want to give anybody that type of control!

:-)
Happy Loving YourSELF

Khrystian Tid-bit

Everyone should want someone that's a TREASURE, not someone random that just any ol' body can have!  Wait for it...(in my Katt Williams voice)

xoxo,
Khrystian Nichole