I do! Now what...

Weddings can be fancinating and frustrating depending on who you’re speaking with! 

After an engagement most people become inundated with numerous questions that they have NO idea how to answer or even where to start. I say: 

Start by just enjoying the moment!!🎉 Make that moment matter by extending it if you have to. Plan a staycation or travel off for a fun day-trip or weekend getaway with your fiancé! 

After enjoying the MOMENT (day/weekend/month), grab a cocktail or two then decide your type of wedding (small or large, romantic or rustic, sit down or buffet, wine, mixed drinks, or both, DJ or band, or both, etc) from there it’ll begin to come together. The point is to enjoy your fiancé first and the moment that essentially is singlehandedly one of the biggest decisions of your entire life. Joining two families together!

Riddle Me This

No you’re easy. Effortless. No one has to court you or compliment you or even lie to you they simply call and you answer. Doesn’t matter the day or time you’re available for them to have their way and they don’t have to be connected or concerned for your feelings since you’re only a text, dm, or dial a (roach) away. 

Desperate at the mere think that what you have is real outside of the two of you. Good thing you’re not paid to think.

No substance. 

No soul. 

No morals. 

No dignity. 

No fulfillment. 

Just lust. 

Just sin. 

Just destruction. 

Just a sunken place. 

Just detriment. 

Continue enjoying that. That’s all the satisfaction you get in this life and the after...

A.lways A. W.illing (Loser)

Perception

Some people have a perception of you and they’ll try and use it against you. To categorize you or to label you because they have insecurities in getting to know you by simply asking you a question or communicating effectively with you. That, I’ve learned, is not your concern! In my opinion; it’s entertaining to hear or see it play out (sometimes) but don’t allow what others perceive of you to weigh in on your psyche. Let God handle them...He does it much better!  

Savage or Salvage

In other news this pandemic has been life altering and downright savage but through the fire, smoke and ashes comes some sense of renewed strength. Thinking of how schools are ending, I’m enjoying the virtual graduations, end of the year award programs, and fair well videos. This should be kept up. In my 15ish years of education this is the first time I have been able to attend a graduation of my past students and it was delightful! 

Not saying stop traditional forms of entertainment and recognition but the renewal or revamping of it is most definitely required and deserved. It’s another form of historical reference leaving a digital footprint for memories and years to follow. Families are spending more time together and redesigning what home entertainment looks like. Health and wellness have been more traditionalized from those that at one time couldn’t find the time to get exercise or good eating in.  I’ve been seeing some good things come from this wretched pandemic so I hope it sticks as we move forward with rebuilding, rebranding, reenergizing our economy and lifestyles.

#37

I figure since my line number when I pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha in 2003 on the campus of Prairie View A&M University was 37. I could participate in the social media circulation of 37 odd things about me . . . .

1. Do you like mustard? Yes

2. Choice of carbonated drink? Dr. Pepper or a good strong Coke from McDonalds

3. Do you own a gun? Yes 👮🏽‍♂️

4. Whiskey, Tequilla, Rum or Vodka?  Depends on where I am and what I’m drinking 🍸🍹🥃

5. Hot dogs or Cheeseburgers? Cheeseburgers 🍔

6. Favorite Type Of Food? Seafood 🦞 🦀

7. Do you believe in ghosts? No

8. What do you drink in the mornings? Coffee and/or orange juice ☕️ 🥤

9. Can you do a 100 Pushups? Yes

10. Summer, Winter, Spring, Fall? Fall 🍁

11. Favorite Hobby? Reading 📖 , writing ✍🏾, karaoke 🎤

12. Tattoos? Nope

13. Do you wear glasses? Yes

14. Phobias?

15. Nickname? Khrysti, Khrys

16. Three drinks you drink? Dr. Pepper, Grand Gold, Mai Tai

17. Biggest Downfall? Procrastination and 2nd Guessing (🤦🏾‍♀️ See what I mean?)

18. Rain or Snow?  Snow ⛄️

19. Piercings? Yes.

20. Married? Yes

21. Kids? Yes

22. Favorite color? All of them

23. Favorite age? 36

24. Can you whistle? No

25. Where were you born? Mainland

26. Brothers or Sisters? Brother

27. Ever Been Arrested? Yes

28. Surgeries? Tonsillectomy, Episiotomy

29. Shower or Bath? Shower 🚿 🧼

30. Like gambling? Yes 🎲

32. Broken bones? No

33. How many tv's in your house? 8 💻

34. Worst pain in your life? Loss of my baby

35. Do you like to dance? Yes 💃🏾

36. Best time of your life? Seeing my baby happy, traveling, happy moments with my family, success

37. Do you like to go camping? If it’s GLAM I’m all for it

Please play along! I have fun reading them. 😊
These are fun to do and fun to read.
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Married...with Food (Meal Three)

Omg! 

I made my very first ever shrimp and sausage gumbo! My husband came home with colossal-sized shrimp, and so much of them I had no choice but to fry, sauté, grill, bake, broil, turn them into shrimp salsa and finally gumbo! Okay, okay; I’m exaggerating about everything but the shrimp salsa, sauté, and gumbo! I payed homage to Forest’s best friend, Bubba. Surprisingly gumbo doesn’t take long, but the thing I hate most about preparing mostly all meat, especially seafood, especially shrimp, is peeling, cleaning, and de-veining them! It’s yuck! And on colossal-sized shrimp the yuck is magnified 🤢Albeit a daunting task; I did it, added all the other ingredients, browned my homemade rue, even added non-slimed okra, and it has been really, really good! My mom still wears the crown, but I come in a nice and solid second!

Power 610

I can’t stand Cooper Saxe or, Blanca Rodriguez. Leave well enough alone. And not only that; they stay coercing criminals into lying on other criminals🤦🏾‍♀️

Jamie wants out, wants better, has ALWAYS wanted better! Why can’t he have it? (I’ll leave it there) I get in the real world what goes around comes around. Eye for an eye. You live by the sword, you die by the sword. 

Tommy did choose the life that ends with nothing, so why is he upset. He and Pas bought confessed they knew Jamie didn’t kill either LaKeisha or Angela; so why still want him dead?!

What the heck was up with the shoot out scene. WHO and WHY were those people there?! Unanswered questions and people...

Good to see Two-Bit and Spanky safe in lockdown. 

I hate that Ghost offed Terry Silver. That was his mistake in this tragic circle. He should’ve let Tasha ride off with him in the sunset. Their relationship wouldn’t have lasted. Tasha doesn’t want a safe life, she wants the ridiculousness of the street life. And Silver believed in justice for bad guys. He would’ve wanted her son in jail for his actions. Speaking of Tasha- her was laid!

James wanted better, Tasha didn’t. They grew apart. He did attempt to make it work more than once but she wasn’t having it. That’s that. 

What in the world is a Sneak an Peek?! Obviously the entire point of a Peek is to find something. Why in the world would the judge even allow the feds (that office at least) to go after St. Patrick with their background and reputation with the man. After what he learned, after all the deaths of the office. That part seemed off.  

James seeing all his ghosts, speaking with his Uncle Gabe, facing all his enemies one-by-one and seemingly winning, ending relationships, giving back to his old community, making his father proud, seemingly convincing Tariq to do the right thing...all were redemption acts for the life he lived (in my opinion). 

Ghost! As bad of a guy as he is. He wouldn’t be at my house for Christmas. I STILL wanted him to WIN! To be lieutenant governor and take Albany! It’s too much like a happy ending and criminals, thugs, murderers, etc usually don’t get happy endings!