Okay ladies and gentlemen: Over the age of 25, you're NEVER really single. You may not be in a monogamous relationship, but as much as when you first meet someone, you proclaim, "I'm single!" You're NOT! There are loose-ends, off again-on again relationships, honey dips, cutty buddies, booty calls, "friends", and we can't forget the oh-so-popular PROVERBIAL rebound! Call them any name you want, other than "significant other", but trust me; you have them. And I say them, because for some of us; there are more than just one!
This person, to whom you are actually involved with (no matter how infrequent) is the person(s) that you ignore the moment you call yourself trying to assume a new relationship with someone else. They are the person, more than likely, that doesn't know about your infatuation with the new "boo". They are usually last to find out, especially when it comes to just how serious you are with the new "boo". Heck, sometimes they don't find out until the facebook photoalbum of your nuptials!! EGAD!
You may engage the loose-end or elude to the fact that you've taken an interest in someone other than them (and by that I mean through ignoring calls, not so available behavior, irritability, any bizarre changed behaviors, inadequaces in bed, or just totally not into them in bed, etc.,) however, you still continue to dangle the bait (call every now and again, send a nude pic, send a "lovely" email or text informing them of how much you love, admire, respect and miss them, evasiveness, ommission of details, treat them to brunch, drinks, etc.)...because let's face it...you don't know how far you'll actually get with your new "boo". They may turn out to be so totally not the one, and rather than risk being...dare I say it...ALONE...you string your loose-end along for the ride. Is this fair? I think NOT, but is it realistic...mos DEF!
Speaking to one of my married friends, I indulged her in this conversation of witts...shortly. A great catch...sure they're out there, they may even be "single", but I'm sure behind EVERY "single", "available", "great catch" there is a loose-end that needs to be tied up (knotted, cut, and dead-bolted pulease!) at least before you indulge into a fresh and new relationship. Take it from me; tested, tried and true, it tremendously saves on confusion, ackwardness, hurt feelings, long-term issues and the inevitable break-up.
GOOD dating is so enjoyable, fun, motivating, and ALL that other good stuff, and NO!, please don't tell each person you date about the other person/people you date (that's just plain old goofy!) You date as many as as often as you like...umm hello?! Take it from me! However, when you change the game and make it into a monogamous relationship, your loose ends need to be cut off.
Single?! Be single...the test to see if you're REALLY single or not; is if you don't have ANY explainatioms to give to NOT one person! But guess what?! After 25! You're NEVER really single...unless of course you live in cave and haven't ever had any type of relationship in you're life! Go figure! " (wicked grin)
Happy Not Really "Single" LOL!
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