Everyone handles pain, sadness, guilt; shoot, even joy and excitement differently! On occasion, when someone is emotional or feeling hurt, they can easily become irrational and say things that shouldn't be taken personally, or; at least that's what you'd hope! Imagine anytime emotional pain is involved: take death, break-ups or any other type of ill-prepared loss. For the sake of this blog; I'll take break-ups for $500, please, Alex!
Many times it won't come as a surprise if your significant other acts like a 5th grader and says vindictive, undeniably rude, irrational or downright mean things to you. Supposedly, they don’t really mean it. They're simply hurt and desiring attention from you. I think it's what we'd all agree as a moment of desperation! I don't think it even matters to them if they get a positive, negative or indifferent reaction, so long as they can conjure up Something!
Maybe you're a "Judgmental Judy" and think what I just wrote was the MOST absurd thing you've ever heard of....you don't think it happens or "you've" (and I do mean, JUST YOU) experienced it before. Let's then take death- one of the most difficult times for many people of the world of all races, ethnicity's and backgrounds to handle. It's a time when old war wounds, and intense emotions can take and sometimes break down families and pull them apart. No matter the root of resentment or contempt it can often times cause dissension, friction and skeletons to fall from places you never could've imagined!
Still looking at "Judy" in the mirror eh?! Then let's take the loss of a job or any major source of income! Think of this here recession America has been going through. Sometimes, out of sheer frustration, a person will say something irrational and plain rude to someone else in an effort to get their point across! Even in the ding dang on starbucks line (at least I guess...hey, it could happen!)If you still can't relate, just go crawl back under the rock you came from LOL! But seriously!
I don't know how many of you have been the observer or offender, but I do know, I was taught, or possibly learned it along the way of this thing called life- after some trial and error of course- to be careful of what I let depart from MY mouth! I learned through the Word that there's power of life and death within these tongues and whatsoever a man speaketh (?) well you know the rest! Anywho, I supremely try and think before I speak! Okay, okay, I've slipped on that more times than I'd care to bring up BUT, I will say; I DO usually mean exactly what I say, and hardly ever; if not haven't, ever went back on what I've said! I've been both blessed and cursed with the Gift of Gab! I'm blunt! Unappolegetically straightforward! I say what I mean and I mean what I say...thank you Dr. Seuss!
Yes, yes, yes I know sometimes we all have said things in the heat of an argument that you may have felt, later on, was below the belt, however; it takes practice not to renege on statements that fly from your mouth! I'm just saying; it saves you on ALL that apologizing! Which, by the way, begins to LOSE it's value if done too often! (subject of my next blog...that's 'gon be a GOOD one too! Lol!)
Okay, I've lost sight of the original intent of this blog for a moment..and it's to urge you to ignore Them! The Offender! Don't let them rile you up! Don't give 'em what they want by reacting! Let them be rude...by THEMSELVES, in the end they'll look stupid! Or at the very come back with their tales between their legs asking for forgiveness!
Just don't give too many chances to make the same mistake twice!
Smooches
Monday, April 4, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
*Notes from THIS Choreographer*
Over time every artist; whether you’re a dancer, writer, musician, actor, or graphic designer develops their own personal and professional style. As a choreographer; I teach young children to adults every dance style imaginable and my methods are the same…with a few tweeks and twerks every now and again, of course. At this present time I’m choreographing a middle school performance of, “Guys and Dolls” and it was funny to me that during a rehearsal I recorded the kids so we could critique their performance and on my ride home I had to laugh out loud at the things I say during notes! Notes are a theatrical term used to give all of the helpful hints, critiques and evaluations of an artist and/or scene performance. Notes happen once the scene, song or routine has taken place (usually at the end of the show or Act) and the artist is either standing or sitting and writing whatever notes the director, musical director or choreographer has to say, so that the next time they perform they are cleaned and polished! Here are a few of my customary notes, and or, things I might possibly shout out during a rehearsal.
1. Practice should be done on your own time!! At rehearsal, you are performance ready!!
2. Memory! One word….wretched! What’s up?! You’re acting like you’ve never learned the routine!
3. You really gave it to me! Nice work!
4. Don’t just stand there when I’m not working with you; go over eight counts, dance, stretch, kick a leg…do sumpin’!!
5. Perfecting time!!! Personally, my favorite part! If you don’t know the routine by now…u WILL when I get through!
6. Give me some spice please! Make it caliente!
7. There you go! Give it to me!
8. Attitude and hair are your BEST props! J Work it out!
9. Never get the same note twice!
10. You’re moving like you’re scared…don’t be scared!
XOXO
1. Practice should be done on your own time!! At rehearsal, you are performance ready!!
2. Memory! One word….wretched! What’s up?! You’re acting like you’ve never learned the routine!
3. You really gave it to me! Nice work!
4. Don’t just stand there when I’m not working with you; go over eight counts, dance, stretch, kick a leg…do sumpin’!!
5. Perfecting time!!! Personally, my favorite part! If you don’t know the routine by now…u WILL when I get through!
6. Give me some spice please! Make it caliente!
7. There you go! Give it to me!
8. Attitude and hair are your BEST props! J Work it out!
9. Never get the same note twice!
10. You’re moving like you’re scared…don’t be scared!
XOXO
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Khrystian Tid-bit
A condom is cheaper than child support and ABSTINENCE is FREE! (my friends)
~wait for it (Katt Williams voice)~
~wait for it (Katt Williams voice)~
Saturday, March 5, 2011
The Art of the Re-Gift
It's one of those things that everybody does, but nobody talks about! Holidays, birthdays and special occasions usually involve gift-giving of some sort. Most times re-gifting is planned...other times...not so much. It begins with a gift. One person receives a gift, has a gift, or has something in their possession that they can't or won't use and so... would serve as a greater gift to someone ELSE (at least one can only hope)! It doesn't necessarily mean the original recipient thought the gift sucked...it just means it doesn't work for them or they can't use it. It also doesn't mean the person receiving the gift sucks...it just means they are more suited for the unknown gift. Heck, and to keep it really real, as I do; you may just not have it to do at the time and the best solution for you will be to re-gift. Whatever you're initial reasoning it's all about the effort you place into re-gifting. Practicing the art of re-gifting...because it is a special craft!
There are specific cases when re-gifting absolutely WORKS:
1. The person you're re-gifting does not know it was a previous gift, otherwise known as hand-me-down.
2. The gift is perfect for them. (their personality, size, or it's just plain ole' something they wanted)
3. The gift is in perfect condition! (original tags attached, fresh, preferably perfectly packaged)
4. It's useful! (it may not have worked for you...but it's PERFECT for them)
5. Accompany the gift with a thoughtful, NEW card. (it ties it all together)
Here's when re-gifting goes WRONG! ABORT MISSION!
1. The person receiving the gift knows it's a re-gift and they were presumed to believe it was original.
2. It was something you didn't want, and now...they don't want it! (because it's out of date or season, not their personality, size or style)
3. It's been used! (missing pieces, fragrance low, tags are worn so bad they are soft or there's stains)
4.Original names are still on the gift. (please double check the gift...common courtesy!)
All in all, there's nothing blatantly wrong with re-gifting (my opinion) however, there's a certain decorum you MUST practice when doing so:
Awareness is key-Make sure the gift will suit your receiver and you understand the gift must be in great condition, examine it, and then bag it! Place yourself in the receivers shoes!
Now to be clear:
It's a total other story if you're giving away something...that's NOT a gift. When you give away something; you don't have to wrap it, it's not a surprise, and the person receiving it more than likely is clearly aware that it may or may not have been used.
Here are some lovely ideas for re-gifting:
*Electronics
*Fragrance
*Houseware
*Equipment
*Travel vouchers
*Movie Passes
*Gift cards
It may never happen, especially if you follow the art of the re-gift however, just as insurance...here's-
What to do when you've been caught re-gifting:
1. Acknowledgement- Do not insult the person's intelligence or pretend like it never happened. Express to them exactly why you would give them the re-gift:
2. Profess- "It's perfect for you." "When first I got this, I knew you had to have it." Any variation to the above will do. As long as you're honest and sincere, they should understand. If you're gifting them...you'd think they know you. LOL!
3. Embrace-Throw a hug in for good measure, and for goodness sake make sure the card is thoughtful and the bagging or wrapping is impeccable!
XOXO
There are specific cases when re-gifting absolutely WORKS:
1. The person you're re-gifting does not know it was a previous gift, otherwise known as hand-me-down.
2. The gift is perfect for them. (their personality, size, or it's just plain ole' something they wanted)
3. The gift is in perfect condition! (original tags attached, fresh, preferably perfectly packaged)
4. It's useful! (it may not have worked for you...but it's PERFECT for them)
5. Accompany the gift with a thoughtful, NEW card. (it ties it all together)
Here's when re-gifting goes WRONG! ABORT MISSION!
1. The person receiving the gift knows it's a re-gift and they were presumed to believe it was original.
2. It was something you didn't want, and now...they don't want it! (because it's out of date or season, not their personality, size or style)
3. It's been used! (missing pieces, fragrance low, tags are worn so bad they are soft or there's stains)
4.Original names are still on the gift. (please double check the gift...common courtesy!)
All in all, there's nothing blatantly wrong with re-gifting (my opinion) however, there's a certain decorum you MUST practice when doing so:
Awareness is key-Make sure the gift will suit your receiver and you understand the gift must be in great condition, examine it, and then bag it! Place yourself in the receivers shoes!
Now to be clear:
It's a total other story if you're giving away something...that's NOT a gift. When you give away something; you don't have to wrap it, it's not a surprise, and the person receiving it more than likely is clearly aware that it may or may not have been used.
Here are some lovely ideas for re-gifting:
*Electronics
*Fragrance
*Houseware
*Equipment
*Travel vouchers
*Movie Passes
*Gift cards
It may never happen, especially if you follow the art of the re-gift however, just as insurance...here's-
What to do when you've been caught re-gifting:
1. Acknowledgement- Do not insult the person's intelligence or pretend like it never happened. Express to them exactly why you would give them the re-gift:
2. Profess- "It's perfect for you." "When first I got this, I knew you had to have it." Any variation to the above will do. As long as you're honest and sincere, they should understand. If you're gifting them...you'd think they know you. LOL!
3. Embrace-Throw a hug in for good measure, and for goodness sake make sure the card is thoughtful and the bagging or wrapping is impeccable!
XOXO
R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
Now-a-days kids aren't taught it...and adults don't show it! It's a sad thing to be writing about...but it's a necessary evil that must be discussed! To people, I might say something like- "If your parents didn't or won't teach you, I'll teach you about respect."
It starts with us...the supposed "adults"! We're the one's the kids look up to for guidance and as role models. Period! It doesn't matter if you want to be one or not! Your positive or negative actions are watched...and it's especially sad, if you have children and have no regard for your behavior around them! Being a parent is a RESPONSIBILITY! Any doofus can produce a child, but it takes responsible individuals to raise a child and be a parent!
The dictionary defines respect as:
: an act of giving particular attention : consideration : high or special regard : esteem : the quality or state of being esteemed : expressions of high or special regard or deference
One particular rule I was taught is to respect my elders. When I was a child it was super easy to decipher an elder...now that I'm older the line has become fuzzy. Not to mention the fact, that most elders, now-a-days, aren't respectable!! I believe, however, the underlying theme is still prevalent! Just show consideration to people, their space, opinions, and feelings...PERIOD! Respect is earned, not deserved!
It's simple and if you didn't care about anything I just wrote in the prior lines, take heed to these next gems of wisdom: Don't do and/or say things that you have to consistently apologize for. Live your life unapologetically- not because you're rude and pompous, but because you're living on purpose...with consideration to those around you! (Khrystian Tid-Bit)
It starts with us...the supposed "adults"! We're the one's the kids look up to for guidance and as role models. Period! It doesn't matter if you want to be one or not! Your positive or negative actions are watched...and it's especially sad, if you have children and have no regard for your behavior around them! Being a parent is a RESPONSIBILITY! Any doofus can produce a child, but it takes responsible individuals to raise a child and be a parent!
The dictionary defines respect as:
: an act of giving particular attention : consideration : high or special regard : esteem : the quality or state of being esteemed : expressions of high or special regard or deference
One particular rule I was taught is to respect my elders. When I was a child it was super easy to decipher an elder...now that I'm older the line has become fuzzy. Not to mention the fact, that most elders, now-a-days, aren't respectable!! I believe, however, the underlying theme is still prevalent! Just show consideration to people, their space, opinions, and feelings...PERIOD! Respect is earned, not deserved!
It's simple and if you didn't care about anything I just wrote in the prior lines, take heed to these next gems of wisdom: Don't do and/or say things that you have to consistently apologize for. Live your life unapologetically- not because you're rude and pompous, but because you're living on purpose...with consideration to those around you! (Khrystian Tid-Bit)
PETA Patrol: Go ALL or Go Home!
Per my morning ritual; I was listening to the Tom Joyner Morning Show, the morning they had an interview with Taraji P. Henson discussing her recent PETA campaign. It's the same highly publicized campaign that the few participants bare all in the name of PETA. I’ve always liked Taraji as an actress, however; after a previous interview I heard her give on the same show detailing her decision to work with Tyler Perry on his feature film, The Family That Preys; I was totally turned off by her attitude!
I’ll begin there: On that particular interview I found her to be abrasive and a tad bit catty. She and Tyler Perry, whom was included in the interview, went back and forth with banter, however; I found her remarks to him to be rude and slightly demeaning. Maybe she meant no harm by her comments, and maybe that’s the relationship she and Tyler Perry have, and she’s certainly entitled to be herself and my opinion means absolutely nothing and won’t make or break her bank account, BUT…it is what it is, so I’ll continue. Make no mistake; I’ll continue watching her on the big screen and I’m sure if I actually chatted with her personally I would feel some other sort of way…maybe NOT, but I’m open to a change of opinion. (wink to Taraji)
Back to PETA Patrol---
During the “PETA” interview and her decision to, rather be naked than wear fur; I got to thinking of PETA and what they stand for, and the negative connotations associated with those of us that possibly wear fur, or those of us whom believe that God gave us (humans) dominion over all the animals of the land and sea. I thought, “Oh Em Gee! PETA is not and/or SHOULD not be just about fashion and fur! That’s not a stand!
Go ALL or go home!” I said that all in my mind as I was listening to her speak because she said, “I can stop wearing fur for the cause.” She went as far as to say, it was like destiny that she was asked to be apart of this campaign because years back she was watching some documentary over cruelty of animals and was convicted then and there and began crying in her living room in front of the television. It MOVED her, she said passionately. Then, when Jay asked if she was going to stop eating chicken; she said, “Not my wings! Surely I’ll continue eating hot wings!”
LOL! See my point?! Yes…it was funny, but it was also TYPICAL! People make all these judgment calls and criticize and state these monumental facts of life or convictions, but they don’t even know what they truly stand for!
I felt like; if you’re not able to stop wearing leather, eating your beloved chicken wings, steak or shrimp and don't even get me started on wearing leather boots, then sit your ass down! This PETA, they actually are very militant in what they stand for, or at least they should be; but I suppose for the publicity…(Side-Eye)...well we know how THAT goes! I’m sorry but the sad reality is: Some people care more about these animals than they do humans! You know it’s true, if you’ll send a man to jail for allowing dog fighting to go on at his home, but allow rapist, molesters, murders and drug dealers to walk the streets. Those same types of people DESTROY life too; HUMAN life as a matter of a fact!
FACT: We had a cold winter here in Texas. There are homeless folk (humans, hello?!) under every bridge; I hadn’t seen not one person picking them up, taking them to their home, feeding, bathing, and clothing them. Let it be a dog, or even a damn tiger…they’ll be up in the house with you, next to you and your kids, wrapped in a snuggie for a family portrait! I mean, we really need to get our minds right! HUMAN life is more important and shouldn’t be discarded because you think an animal has your back and won’t let you down! Let, even for a second that tiger get hungry enough…he will hunt for blood, and if you’re in the vicinity…sorry folks, you’re going down!
XOXO
I’ll begin there: On that particular interview I found her to be abrasive and a tad bit catty. She and Tyler Perry, whom was included in the interview, went back and forth with banter, however; I found her remarks to him to be rude and slightly demeaning. Maybe she meant no harm by her comments, and maybe that’s the relationship she and Tyler Perry have, and she’s certainly entitled to be herself and my opinion means absolutely nothing and won’t make or break her bank account, BUT…it is what it is, so I’ll continue. Make no mistake; I’ll continue watching her on the big screen and I’m sure if I actually chatted with her personally I would feel some other sort of way…maybe NOT, but I’m open to a change of opinion. (wink to Taraji)
Back to PETA Patrol---
During the “PETA” interview and her decision to, rather be naked than wear fur; I got to thinking of PETA and what they stand for, and the negative connotations associated with those of us that possibly wear fur, or those of us whom believe that God gave us (humans) dominion over all the animals of the land and sea. I thought, “Oh Em Gee! PETA is not and/or SHOULD not be just about fashion and fur! That’s not a stand!
Go ALL or go home!” I said that all in my mind as I was listening to her speak because she said, “I can stop wearing fur for the cause.” She went as far as to say, it was like destiny that she was asked to be apart of this campaign because years back she was watching some documentary over cruelty of animals and was convicted then and there and began crying in her living room in front of the television. It MOVED her, she said passionately. Then, when Jay asked if she was going to stop eating chicken; she said, “Not my wings! Surely I’ll continue eating hot wings!”
LOL! See my point?! Yes…it was funny, but it was also TYPICAL! People make all these judgment calls and criticize and state these monumental facts of life or convictions, but they don’t even know what they truly stand for!
I felt like; if you’re not able to stop wearing leather, eating your beloved chicken wings, steak or shrimp and don't even get me started on wearing leather boots, then sit your ass down! This PETA, they actually are very militant in what they stand for, or at least they should be; but I suppose for the publicity…(Side-Eye)...well we know how THAT goes! I’m sorry but the sad reality is: Some people care more about these animals than they do humans! You know it’s true, if you’ll send a man to jail for allowing dog fighting to go on at his home, but allow rapist, molesters, murders and drug dealers to walk the streets. Those same types of people DESTROY life too; HUMAN life as a matter of a fact!
FACT: We had a cold winter here in Texas. There are homeless folk (humans, hello?!) under every bridge; I hadn’t seen not one person picking them up, taking them to their home, feeding, bathing, and clothing them. Let it be a dog, or even a damn tiger…they’ll be up in the house with you, next to you and your kids, wrapped in a snuggie for a family portrait! I mean, we really need to get our minds right! HUMAN life is more important and shouldn’t be discarded because you think an animal has your back and won’t let you down! Let, even for a second that tiger get hungry enough…he will hunt for blood, and if you’re in the vicinity…sorry folks, you’re going down!
XOXO
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
You MAY Possibly Be Psycho If...
We all know, or...er (clears throat to possible said individuals) have our very own likely "iffy" behavior and/or qualities! I'm NOT here to judge, and frankly...if you're good with them, hey- do your thang! However, I'm going to give you a skee-taste of my running list of psychotic behaviors...If it applies to you: Get help! If it applies to someone you know: Get thee behind you! LOL! But SERIOUSLY!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You're stalking a person...whether it's facebook, a blog, twitter, their house, job, calling and hanging up, etc. being ANYwhere unknown and unannounced numerous times and for extended time periods is freakishly weird! Please STOP and get a life!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You lie so often and (you think) so well that even YOU begin to believe your lies. If you're not a fiction or fantasy writer...what's the point? I mean, sooner or later all your lies are going to come out and you'll just look like some type of misfit that can't be trusted and everything that you say or said will become null and void! So do us ALL a favor and be true to yourself. Word is Bond! If you don't have your word...you have NOTHING! Believe dat!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You have the personality of Tami Roman from basketball wives and in one sentence you're smiling, laughing and joking and in the next sentence you're cursing, hearing things, and flipping over tables! Get to anger management ASAP...no one wants to be around you any longer...You're a downer and, I might add, alittle schizo!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~ You continually have regrettable moments each time you wake up from a night of binge drinking by yourself OR socially! You have no recollection of the evenings events and you're embarrassed and/or outraged by your actions! Seek help please! There are only so many, "I'm sorry's" your friends and support system want to hear! Deal with the real issues at hand before taking a swig!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You living a double life. What's the purpose of all the alias'? And why you never stay in the same place for longer than 3 months? And why you can't be around people long enough to hold open conversations? And where are your family or friends? And why your social security card reads, Randi but your name is Kendel? And where you be from 8am-5pm because you don't have no job, but you never available? And....OKAY! LOL! I'm a stop. I was getting into 'em! Ummm, yea...you already guessed; that's pyscho!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You live vicariously through a friend or relative so much so that you have spasmic lapses in judgement and you cross the line between fantasy and reality! It's what we all remember as "the single-white-female" syndrome! Eek! Snap out of it...you're not them, you don't have their life! Their life experiences, triumphs, conversations and sadly...even problems are not your own! No matter how often you hang out with them, or get to know their inner circle; at the end of the day you are still YOU and merely just a thorn in their side! It's not flattering. You must seek professional help or at the very least; get your own identity!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~More than one person has characterized you or your behavior as such...men lie, women lie...BUT numbers DON'T! Kind, sweet, cute, funny, silly, great...these are adjectives worth being tagged to. Ain't nothing cute, kind or sweet about being tagged PSYCHO! As soon as someone calls you or your behavior psycho...SOMETHING...I'm not saying anything in particular...but SOMETHING ain't quite right with you! Self-check!
Hope I've enlightened some folks today! If any of the above was you or someone you know; please don't hesitate to get help or call: 016 221 1800 The Digi-Psycho Help Line! They're also on facebook friends!
LOL! It's all smiles...but that's a REAL number! Get the help you deserve!
XOXO
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You're stalking a person...whether it's facebook, a blog, twitter, their house, job, calling and hanging up, etc. being ANYwhere unknown and unannounced numerous times and for extended time periods is freakishly weird! Please STOP and get a life!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You lie so often and (you think) so well that even YOU begin to believe your lies. If you're not a fiction or fantasy writer...what's the point? I mean, sooner or later all your lies are going to come out and you'll just look like some type of misfit that can't be trusted and everything that you say or said will become null and void! So do us ALL a favor and be true to yourself. Word is Bond! If you don't have your word...you have NOTHING! Believe dat!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You have the personality of Tami Roman from basketball wives and in one sentence you're smiling, laughing and joking and in the next sentence you're cursing, hearing things, and flipping over tables! Get to anger management ASAP...no one wants to be around you any longer...You're a downer and, I might add, alittle schizo!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~ You continually have regrettable moments each time you wake up from a night of binge drinking by yourself OR socially! You have no recollection of the evenings events and you're embarrassed and/or outraged by your actions! Seek help please! There are only so many, "I'm sorry's" your friends and support system want to hear! Deal with the real issues at hand before taking a swig!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You living a double life. What's the purpose of all the alias'? And why you never stay in the same place for longer than 3 months? And why you can't be around people long enough to hold open conversations? And where are your family or friends? And why your social security card reads, Randi but your name is Kendel? And where you be from 8am-5pm because you don't have no job, but you never available? And....OKAY! LOL! I'm a stop. I was getting into 'em! Ummm, yea...you already guessed; that's pyscho!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~You live vicariously through a friend or relative so much so that you have spasmic lapses in judgement and you cross the line between fantasy and reality! It's what we all remember as "the single-white-female" syndrome! Eek! Snap out of it...you're not them, you don't have their life! Their life experiences, triumphs, conversations and sadly...even problems are not your own! No matter how often you hang out with them, or get to know their inner circle; at the end of the day you are still YOU and merely just a thorn in their side! It's not flattering. You must seek professional help or at the very least; get your own identity!
You may possibly be psycho IF~
~More than one person has characterized you or your behavior as such...men lie, women lie...BUT numbers DON'T! Kind, sweet, cute, funny, silly, great...these are adjectives worth being tagged to. Ain't nothing cute, kind or sweet about being tagged PSYCHO! As soon as someone calls you or your behavior psycho...SOMETHING...I'm not saying anything in particular...but SOMETHING ain't quite right with you! Self-check!
Hope I've enlightened some folks today! If any of the above was you or someone you know; please don't hesitate to get help or call: 016 221 1800 The Digi-Psycho Help Line! They're also on facebook friends!
LOL! It's all smiles...but that's a REAL number! Get the help you deserve!
XOXO
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