Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game!

The signs of the time have really changed!  I say this, only because it's more....I repeat MORE evident now that the times have changed!  I've heard Tyra complain about having "real " models on the cover of magazines.  I've heard actors complain that musicians are taking all the box office movie roles; and most recently I've heard teachers complaining about alternative certified teachers! 
I'll tell you this:  people need to step up their game!  Sorry, but generally speaking; with a recession, college education expenses, the demands of the workplace and, not to mention those of us that are go-getters, or highly motivated- you shouldn't even be concerning yourself with the path it took someone to get to their success, but their intentions and/or how successful they are now that they have the position. 
Just to break in to my own conversation for a minute- I don't mean if they got to a position illegally or anything.  I just mean; it shouldn't matter if all your life you were an engineer, or a doctor, or a hairstylist, or worked as a customer service rep for Macy's; if and when you decide you want to be on the big-screen, or open your own franchise, or become a teacher...hell, just change career paths altogether...DO IT!
Who cares that I went to college and got a formal education in Communications Radio and Television.  I spent four years learning and studying everything there is to know about broadcasting, communications law and theory, news writing, digital design, principles of public relations, voice and diction, media criticism, and on top of all that and much more; I interned in my field.  Who gives a flying flip if, when I graduated, I decided to teach.  Or who really cares that, now I want to open my own businesses in the two passions I most love in the world; mentoring and dance.
I know someone that spent their life in merchandising and sales, only to one day decide they wanted to pursue real estate.  I know someone else that spent a majority of their life working on docks and loading ships, now they trade by day making lots of money and offering seminars to those that are interested in building wealth.  Another person I know studied law and passed the bar, only to pursue a career in film.  I also know someone that spent all their life in the medical profession and just continually built upon that.
Who cares?!
It's never too late to start over, unless you're dead! 
In fact, when I was in high school and I received this one scholarship through a college that required us to  participate in enrichment seminars; I learned, or better yet was told, "Don't want to become a doctor and only study biology in college.  It's great if you do, but medical schools look highly and choose students that are well-rounded.  Major in something you love.  Or that's a polar opposite.  Like business or theater.  Do well in it and then do even better on the MCAT (medical school test) and you'll be in the top picks!"
It's absolutely true.  Stop allowing people to stifle your endeavors and dreams.  Go after what ever you want.  There's no need not to.  Stop thinking you can only master one thing in life and that's all.  Something that I bring to my district and my kids in particular, is my unique style of teaching!  It engages them.  I project.  I entertain and on top of that I teach.  I motivate.  I inspire.  I change the game of boring classroom styles and bring in something different, and of course it's due to my background in radio and tv!  Everything else; they made sure I was trained for in my alternative course.  Then I still subbed (interned, if you will) for an entire year!  So get over yourself!  I trained and now am highly qualified, per the state of Texas, to teach any subject 4th through 8th grade!
Now, I will admit that there are some of us that can't see the gold at the end of the rainbow, for watching the storm; but BUMP that!  Then there are also some of us that take a quick run to the grocery store and turn it into a trek!  (Meaning that, they act as if they can't plan anything else for their day, due to having to make groceries!)  I absolutely loathe that type of personality.  But you know what?!  Do you!  If that's how you are, do you; but for goodness sake, leave the rest of us alone!!
So I'll leave you with all that to ponder on....and then this...Step Up Your Game! WWDD!! Stop complaining and make it happen!!  Don't hate the player, hate the game!


~Khrystian

!Word to the Wise!

Please be careful in life with those that you call your friend; those that you associate with, those you confide in, those who you enjoy a good time with. A honest and true friend is rare. The friend that you can count and depend on. And there are so many magnitudes of friendship. Many people believe in the saying keep your friends close, but you're enemies even closer. Well I don't need an enemy close to me. ( in fact, remove them please and thank you!) lol! I also think it's rather unhealthy to have frienemies!

I say be careful and tread lightly with folks you call a friend because there are some people in the world that are miserable. They weren't born in misery (well not all) and weren't born miserable (well not all) but they have gotten miserable with age and time. It could be due to life circumstances or poor judgement on their part, but whatever their excuse; they're miserable! Let's face it: Misery mos def loves company. So now; they'll pretend to be your friend: laugh at your jokes, extend a shoulder to cry on, offer you sound advice, and wish you well in all your endeavors. However they're the same friend that hopes you fail, gives the advice they followed to get them in their shitty predicament ( I just love that metaphor, haha), laughs when you cry, and gives a side eye to your jokes! Sound familiar?!...Maybe not. Your "friend" is probably well disguised. Or revealed as the frienemy!

The frienemies are just that! There's no special formula to them...they are the enemy that attempts to be your friend. Many times they are so envious of you...your life; they desperately just want to be around you...know you...understand you. They are misguided and don't know how to be a friend! So...They challenge everything you stand for! Some of them don't just challenge; they actually work double time to disprove, discredit, and flat out dis-count you. Some people thrive on a competitive edge; however, they don't actually challenge to uplift you what so ever. Their main concern or goal is to crush you under their heel! Sound harsh?! It's because it is!

The next is the age old saying: keep friends close and enemies closer-WHY!?? Please somebody that believes in that comment and explain! Enemies aren't in your life for anything other than to be a footstool, so accept it, allow the Forward Motion (notice my plug ;) and leave them there! In fact, having that enemy or hater should just drive you further along! The difference between a hater and an enemy is their approach!

At least the hater is bold enough to reveal themselves and make it known, meanwhile; you probably have someone in your life right now that's been a hater since Pre-k! SMDH! so be careful with your inner circle. You don't have to dismiss friends, you'll just be cognizant of the people you trust with your life. Aspire to surround yourself with positive, uplifting, good and whole-some people! You'll be glad you did!

"Change your attitude, change your life!"

~Khrystian Nichole