Friendship Rules vs Associates

This is a tragedy!

In college I had a group of girls that; it only took one time for me to know they weren’t “friends” to me. It was a night like most college party nights. I wasn’t with my normal group of friends, and I don’t really remember why. It could have been homecoming or some other big party weekend but the girls I spent that weekend with had solely become my associates strictly through our college associations. 

The particular night I recall;  I wasn’t inebriated however, I had been drinking enough. I wasn’t alert however, I wasn’t unaware. 

Socializing. 

I lingered one too many times and in turn; they left me! 

I looked around and they were gone. It was dark. It was an outdoors party. And if you’ve ever been l.e.f.t. without prior knowledge that it’s happening it can cause a sudden panic to come over you once you realize you’re alone. It feels as if you hear no sound other than your own heartbeat. Everything and everyone looks unfamiliar. 

I felt that. 

I felt it for longer than I care to remember. However, thank God for grace and His covering.  The night didn’t end tragic, ruined, or even with a spot on the associations.   My friends, true or just simply DECENT...wouldn’t have left me, not even for a second without me knowing it or where they were going and undoubtably not without one staying or them pulling me  along with them. It just doesn’t happen! 

The girls, the chics, the crew, the clique, the ladies I call FRIENDS...it doesn’t happen! 

The other side of the coin would be to say friends aren’t “babysitters” and my reply would be, what kind of friend doesn’t check up, help, recover, fend, protect, care for, or have concern for another person that they deem a companion? 

So my heart goes out to this young lady’s family. Lord have mercy on the conscience of all involved. Speculations, misjudgments, and allegations, among other things, will certainly conspire but in the end this loss is troublesome and disturbing all around. God be with them all.