Most Important Decision Ever

One thing is sure when deciding marriage, or a lifelong union of any kind, to a person...make sure it's for the RIGHT reasons! 

The number one reason should be TRUST. You trust them wholeheartedly. You trust their flaws, their past mistakes, their decision-making skills...you trust their intent, their will to live, their heart. You trust their desires and commitment. 

Above all there should be LOVE, however, too many people use that word cavalierly. It's taken for granted. Because so many people don't understand love or what it actually means, and their only interpretation of love many times is a false sense of security or entitlement we've all seen on television or in movies; I decided to use the word trust. Trust is simplistic in definition that it's understandable even to  three year old. A toddler won't willingly go with anyone they don't trust. Well, the toddlers I know lol. 

Moving on. 

Don't marry someone for financial gain. Don't marry someone for pity. Don't marry someone under an ultimatum. Don't marry someone because it's the "right" thing to do. Don't marry someone because of a kid. Don't marry someone to prove a point. Don't marry someone because it's expected. Don't marry someone because everyone else is doing it. Don't marry someone because you're tired of being alone. Don't marry someone because of the way it'll look. 

Propose marriage because you want to spend your life growing and learning together. Propose marriage because you trust them with your heart. 

Accept the proposal because you're honored to share life with the person. Accept the proposal because you couldn't imagine doing this thing called life with anyone but them. 

These aren't things you think of after you've asked or accepted. They're conversations you have with yourself BEFORE making any moves. The conversations before can save you time, money, heartache, and stress. It's the most important decision you'll ever willingly make in your life so don't rush the before conversations and certainly don't skip them. 

Good luck in Love, fairytales do exist...you make your own! 

xoxo