There are so many instances of awkward relationship behavior that could be addressed. We'll take it day by day, or for purposes of my blog; case by case!
I'll begin with this first one, only because it's always important when entering and maintaining a healthy relationship for you to be free to BE YOU and have the confidence to openly express yourself to your mate! You should not have to feel like you're "performing" in your relationships; being someone you're not or holding your feelings in! Especially not in your intimate or personal relationships!
You should always feel comfortable to be yourself with and around your mate! That's the benefit of having someone that loves you; they ACCEPT you!
If you're in a relationship and you're ostracized for being yourself, you should rethink that commitment! I'm just saying!
For instance- Awkward Relationship Behavior 1:
You're being flirty with your mate or initiating some sort of intimacy, whether it's a private conversation or hand-holding but instead of following your lead, making you feel safe and secure by engaging with you they accuse you of being inebriated! You ask a serious question or emotionally put yourself out there and they automatically deduce your behavior to having one too many drinks or say, "what's gotten into you?" or "you're acting weird/strange!"
I think something's wrong there!
What do you think?!
I think your mate will never initiate again! I think you've shut down or alienated a part of your mate they were attempting to unveil and share! This may cause concealment!
This then begins a vicious domino affect! The mate that's "shot down" the other, at a later date, is now wondering why they aren't open with their feelings?! Why aren't they affectionate?! Why don't they initiate?!
It's awkward relationship behavior right?! Don't diminish someone's feelings! Even if it seems out of character for your mate; clearly, they are COMFORTABLE with you! They say love makes people do strange, different, wonderful-no less-things. You stifle your relationships growth when you point-out what someone is doing! Especially if it's not harming you! My goodness; it's FLIRTING or initiating INTIMACY! How dare your mate want to flirt with you or be intimate?!
What monsters?!!
Think twice before you belittle your mates advances, initiation and affection!
XOXO,
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