In the Words of Boris...

Boris Kodjoe, whom most of us remember from the cable series, Soul Food, began a twitter topic titled; How to be a Man.  If you at all follow my blog, you undersatnd that my position has and will always be that; only a man can teach a man how to be a man and vice versa for women.  Not only is Boris Kodjoe a gorgeous man, he seems to have a genuine heart and a kind spirit.  He has a lovely marriage to Nicole Ari Parker, and together they have a beautiful family. (side-note) Boris and Nicole Ari met on the set of Soulfood, and their parents actually initiated, or I should say, encouraged their union!

After his twitter rant on the topic, he made certain to clarify that he is, "...no expert but, it's how I do it."  I wanted to share these with you.  His ideas were definitely on point, and conveyed precisely what my definition of a great man would be.  Here's his take on, How to be a Man:

*In bed, take care of your woman first. When she's satisfied you are DA MAN!!!

*Communicate without cursing. You don't need to curse to make a point. Cursing shows lack of substance.

*Get your passport and travel. A man needs to see the world.

* Know how to cook and clean. It'll show her that you don't need her but that you WANT her.

*Fix or build something with your hands. It'll show her that you are capable of taking care of a home.

*Laugh at yourself. A woman likes a man who doesn't take himself too serious.

*Embrace your imperfections.

*Stay in shape. It'll show her that you care about yourself and therefore are able to care about her.

*Take care of your responsibilities. Anything less is unacceptable. A boy is irresponsible, not a man.

*Open her door and pull out her chair. It shows her that you honor traditional values. Trust me, she will do the same.

*Be present! Take her in with your eyes and ears. Your attention will make her feel loved and she won't ever nag you.

*Read a fucking book! (Sorry, violation of 'no cursing' rule) But seriously, ignorance is a major turn-off. Book on tape will do.

*Have an ambition. You don't need to be rich but you need to show direction and motivation. Keep a job!

*Last one for today: Treat a woman the way you would want your daughter to be treated. Anything less is unacceptable.

There you have it...in the words of Boris!  I admire men AND women whom value their relationships and motivate others to do the same.  It's refreshing and enlightening... Thoughts?