Basic Event Etiquette 101

Through the years I've hosted and attended many events, parties, get togethers, so and so forth; so now I have compiled a simple list of do's and don'ts and why's for hosts and guests!  Enjoy and feel free to add to them!

If the host doesn't have kids or pets don't bring yours!  Don't Ask! Don't Tell! That means don't even ask if you can bring your kids or bring your damn dog!  If the host has kids/animals they will usually specify whether the event is kid/animal friendly. 

For an informal party-Ask if there's anything you could bring.  The host will either say no or suggest you bring something specific.  It NEVER hurts to ask.  It's a polite gesture and it speaks volumes about your character!

For a formal party- Bring a gift. It doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive.  Again, it speaks volumes about your character.

Don't invite yourself.  If you didn't get an invite, build a bridge and get over it.  If they are someone you're close to, maybe your invite got lost in the mail...eerr, maybe not; but don't pout and make a big deal like you're two years old.

***RSVP*** (This is a BIG deal especially since soooooo many people clearly don't know or understand the proper etiquette of Répondez sil vous plaît!)  Unless it specifies something different like: please only respnd with regrets.  RSVP means let us know regardless if you're coming or NOT!  The host obviously needs to have an accurate account of their guests!  Hello?! Get you some manners and class please!

Don't crash!  You may just get your feelings hurt and be asked to leave!  In the words of the Backstreet Boys, "bye, bye, bye, byeeeeee!"

READ the damn invite!  I.E. directions, special requests/instructions, themes, registries...It can happen, trust me, that you lose the invite and it's perfectly acceptable to call and double check.  However, do not call the host or guest of honor on the day of the event, nor the hours up until the event and certainly not during the event asking a billion questions that you could have easily confirmed the day or days before!  It's extremely frustrating and rude to do that!  It's also one of my pet peeves!

Map quest/Google is your friend!  Use it!  It's convenient and it saves you from calling the host (my personal favorite) as the party is going on to get directions or driving around for an hour lost and mad!

Put away the cell phone,  I mean my goodness; whatever did we do before our trusty cell phones.  Plain and simple you look rude, bored or pre-occupied.

Don't forget the most important accessory- A smile!  It goes a long way and it's inviting!