Also known as wait-listed, benchwarmers...they just didn't make the cut, and rather than dismiss them...you hang on to them, straddle them along for the ride and inevitably you'll "like" them one day. They are saved like some get-out-of-jail-free card! The wildcard! You may not be guilty, but you know someone that is guilty of doing this...hell you may even be on the sidelines as we speak!
The rebound usually is the one that really likes you too. They're impressed by you. They probably want nothing more than to be your main squeeze. They answer when you call, and if not, quickly return the call. They'll do anything in the world to spend just alittle time with you, that's why it's all too easy to get ahold of them when you're lonely, bored or just down right broken-hearted from the relationship lull you're in.
However, to be quite honest; they can't do NOTHING right! You critique them on everything they do; from the way the chew to the way they attempt to hold your hand! Normally, you wouldn't have anything to complain about, but since it's the perverbial rebound...you can't stand anything they do or say. You always find something wrong with them to discuss with your one friend that always asks about them. It's sad too, because they're probably perfect for you, but since your so-called heart is somewhere else, they just won't do!! "Poor perverbial rebound!" (insert sad face here)
If only they could be the "one" you really want, instead of the understudy! I think too many times "we" and I use "we" loosely, but "we" get so caught up in Mr. and Mrs. Right; you know...the real thing, "the love of our lives"; that we get set and determined on a Mr or Mrs. Right NOW. (Thanks Friend for the idea...insert blowing kisses here). We think we have to have a warm body, or some one of the opposite sex to make us happy, when all the while (as I state entry after entry) we need to focus on building ourselves up. Establishing ourselves. Engaging in what makes us smile and happy. Unsure if you are the perverbial rebound...or if you've used someone as you're perverbial rebound? Here's some things to take note of. Now, this is not law. There is no sure fire way to tell if you're a perverbial rebound. The rules may vary from person to person, or may even fluctuate depending on your particular situation...but hmpf, this is pretty much so, what that is:
Have you ever gotten a call from someone that sounds so distraught and needs to talk? You've dated, or er...slept together, been boyfriend/girlfriend at some point; let's just say spent some time together, but for whatever reason you're not together (at the moment) and they; either out of the blue, or sparsely call, text or email you? Well...I hate to tell you, but you are the rebound. They need a voice, a warm body, a comfortable screw to get them through whatever it is their feeling. Did you notice that soon after, you don't hear from them? Usually the reason you don't hear from them is because they've gotten their need fulfilled. They've gotten their fix. As my momma say, "they've gotten their rocks off!" LOL! So you sit and wonder why you can't have them to yourself or all the time or be exclusive and I'll tell you it's because you're the perverbial rebound.
Do you talk to the so-called "one" only every now and again; and sometimes it's few and far between?! When you talk to them...it's like they're rushing to get ALL their feelings in. I call it making up for lost time.(insert side-eye) They're either fishing to see if you've got someone, pressing the issue of why ya'll aren't together, or in an intense rush to see you or spend "quality" time with you(?) Do you find yourself totally into them, and you think the feelings are mutual; yet when it comes time to have "the talk" you find yourself bewildered and not able to "read" their feelings?!
Don't get it twisted or get your feelings hurt...but I'm here to tell you-You ARE the perverbial rebound!
Okay, some of us may be in denial...so maybe they call a couple or even a few days after, but STILL (as much as you don't want to hear it) you're the rebound...or perhaps you're guilty of doing this.
If it happens more often than not...sorry, but you have now turned into the perverbial rebound. Always there ready and willing. Because let's face it: You're really into them. You still think there's a fighting chance even though they've been in another serious relationship for over a year. Their married, but still calling , so the one they with must be over there doing something wrong. NO sweetie...you just look real weak and stupid! (I'll mos def have to blog on these people of the world that think it's "cool" to date married folks! Or be the "other lover"!)
Any who. Long story short; there's nothing nice or sweet about having a perverbial rebound or being the perverbial rebound. Just like the title, someone's BOUND to get hurt! So watch yourself out here. Be smart in love and war...cause everything's fair! You have to know how to distinguish between playing, getting played, reffing or just saying, to heck with all that...I'm more than a rebound! I'm grown and I don't play games!
XOXO,
Khrystian Nichole
"Know you're position in the game."
Amen
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