Is It me?!

There are some of us that can get into a relationship with someone and everyone else around can tell; you and your significant other are changed! And by changed; I mean noticeably in love, smitten, head over heels! Not because you're dumb in love either. Pretending each of you are something you're not! That's no bueno! I speak of the kind of change that causes you not to drunk call an ex, or "accidently" dial a blast from the past. The kind where you don't begin an internet love affair with someone you meet off messenger. I'm talking about the kind of change that makes you not want to be caught up in any uncompromising positions whatsoever; so you'll be respectful, and thoughtful, and careful with all feelings involved; including the person you're not in a "relationship" with. I speak of the type of love Outkast sang about in, International Player's Anthem! "...hate to see you cry, but I'd rather see her smile." There's no other explanation to me except... Love!

Call me the girl that leaves no room for error, or too frigid, or whatever; but I honestly feel like if you can't let all other acts of indiscretion go with all "others"-how can you truly look at your mate and declare, "I love you."? It's ludicrous to me! Yeah, yeah people make mistakes and mishaps may even happen; but come on, do you really believe that?!

Why are there these phrases such as; sideline chick, honey dip, jump-offs, my #2, and so on and so forth? Honestly, if you need a number 2, you're number 1 probably not doing their job and you need to let 'em go! (As Keyshia Cole sang it) If they were all of that to begin with, you wouldn't have room for nobody else (numbers 2, 3 or 4 as said someone I follow on twitter)! :D



Then there are those of us that can't find an honest and good person if we spoke to God and had him tailor-made (ok I'm exaggerating of course! LOL), but seriously; it's very hard to come across those individuals that are secure enough within themselves to be mature, monogamous, and genuinely good-hearted toward a future with you! Or so it seems. I know I'll step on some toes here-but maybe, just maybe it's us!! (did I just say that?!) Side-eye. Especially if you keep attracting the same loose in the head types (generally speaking) maybe it's something you're giving off intially, or even as time passes. I say today is a GREAT day to re-evaluate self!
Just take a step back, make a list if you need to. How many times have you seriously dated what seemed like the same person? What are some of the qualities you noticed that ALL the men you date share? It could be so much so that they read from the same script lol! If, honestly, they are all different; well you have one up on everyone else and you're probably just not the best at picking a good mate, or better yet, keeping them! ;) That being the case, you should work on that department.
Buuuuuut, if you're in the other group; it's time evaluate SELF, because now you know the problem isn't that those you're dating are habitual liars. It's that you are "choosing" to be with habitual liars! SMH!

Ready... Set... Evaluate!

Happy writing!