Sunday, March 3, 2013

Vicious Cycle

Why does a person feel the need to excerpt themselves into your life? Even after you've made if clear to leave well enough alone.
Be grateful someone is willing to be kind enough to be upfront and honest in saying they want nothing to do with you and nothing from you. "Thank you but no, I don't want a friendship with you." "It won't work between us for multiple reasons you already are well aware of" "I'd appreciate it if you just stop calling me." "Please stop calling me. Have a nice life."

There are so many people that get strung along, misused and abused so if a person can openly express how they really feel about you, or the intentions they have for you: you should accept it and move on. Right?
Especially if they're not insulting you. Yes, perhaps your ego is tarnished, but come on...Get over it! They could've said it in a rude, disrespectful way and then we'd have an entire other beast on our hands!
Why harry ass, as my grandmother says, them about this incessant need to speak with them? Why must you need closure for a friendship? Why begin to insult in an effort to evoke an exchange? Why bribe with idiotic gifts that will never come to fruition?
I just don't get it!
You're damned if you do and damned of you don't! They make you out to be the "bad guy" regardless when all you're really trying to do is save time, effort and energy!
If you continue a friendship with someone even though you KNOW without a shadow of a doubt it's going down a dead-end street; you're leading them on and wrong!
If you let them know upfront that you're not interested in them and have no desire to start or continue a relationship with them you're wrong and a plethora of other things!
What gives?
Take a hint. If a person wants you in their life; they'll make some type of conscious effort. Don't you agree? I mean seriously, there's other fish in the sea! If they don't see you're a great person; it's their loss! Right?
You're great for someone! Consider yourself better off. You shouldn't have to throw yourself at anyone. Right? Besides you too old for that! (as my good friend says)

"I guess you really don't want me in your life."
-Seriously! Don't text a person this idiotic statement especially after it's been expressed. If it hasn't been expressed how about you just disappear anyway!
"I guess your cousin was right about you."
-Goodbye! Get lost. Now you're fishing.
"I just wanted to say goodbye"
-Bye boo. Bye!
"I guess I'll remove your name and number from my phone"
-Well considering I never call you anyway. Ok. Moving right along!
"I really need to talk with you."
-Really?! About what and for what? Sit down clown!

But low and behold even after never responding you get a call and text from the number again during a holiday!
-Thought you removed my number. Damn Gina!

Then calls and text come from unidentified numbers.
-Really?! Oh, sure; I'll answer an unknown number that's calling AND texting me saying the exact same bs!

Even if you decide to be "nice"! You think, I wouldn't want anyone to do this to my brothers or cousins or ME! So you answer or respond. Try to be "nice" but making sure to be clear there's no light at the end of the tunnel for them....it still gets misconstrued and the vicious cycle begins again because the very thing you stopped communicating with them in the first place for is the very thing they continue to do: Annoy you.
Against your better judgement being "nice" doesn't pay.
Why can't people just take a hint?!

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