As The World Turns (in real life...) Episode 4

"I've been living with this man for two years. I love him very much but here lately I've found bank statements from out of town ATM's on days and nights he was supposed to be at work. My EZ tag has to be added to or charged double time, he also has a number on his cell phone bill, that I pay, where he is talking all day and night for extensive amounts of time. He gets upset with me for any little thing, especially if I question him about about anything and lately he sleeps on the couch. Our work schedules have been crucial, but I feel there's something else. I prepared and had his entire family over, including out of towners for holiday dinner and spent a lot of money on their Christmas gifts.  I called the number in his phone that's listed as a male name, but when I called a female answered. On top of all this; our sex life has declined drastically."
Enough! (and) TMI on that note :-) You have ALL the evidence in the world to convict and yet you want my answer....a deliberation! Come on! There's no easy way to say that he's seeing someone else. I don't mean to sound curt; but he's probably been buying time through the holidays to either keep his little honey dip around, and/or planning some sort of breakup with one of you. Clearly he can't continue on the way he's going...or perhaps he can; if you'll allow it! No need to go through his phone (although I can understand why if he's constantly lying AND you're paying the bill) but it would seem as though he didn't want to abruptly change holiday plans, you're making it real EASY for him to do as he pleases: footing the bill, allowing him to sleep on the couch (what is that?!). Hey, I'm not advocating fornication, pre-marital sex, and such and such, but I will say; you already bought the cow, so why would you not drink the milk?! Accepting his downright rude behavior. I understand you began saying you love him...but he's NOT displaying love and certainly not with you!  Take it from me...the "new" male name in the phone is the woman he's seeing! Let them live happily ever after...he'll see the grass isn't greener on the other side. Whether the other woman knows about you or not...HE should know better and HE'S as wrong as two left shoes! First for not being man enough to tell you if he wasn't happy with you, second for abusing your kind, giving, supportive nature, third for being a giglo and fourth for being all of that wrapped into an arrogant asshole. How dare he assume an attitude with you?!
Move on girl. That's not love...he's using the hell out of you!