The Communication Challenge

I'm not going to say, "men are stupid", or "men have no understanding" or "men never get it", but the saying is, "Nobody can read your mind!" Which holds true today, tomorrow and forever more. Men, no matter how pompous they may seem are, in fact, NOT gods! As women, especially in a relationship, no matter if you're first dating, getting to know each other, engaged or married have to COMMUNICATE our needs, wants, desires, aspirations...I mean, the whole shebang!
Case in point:
You can NOT implement a ten-day plan (see Two Can Play That Game) without the man having a clue that he’s done something wrong! There is no such thing as a silent treatment if the two of you rarely speak as it is. It’s not effective!!! How would he know, you’re not speaking to him; if you don’t speak on a regular? What his mind says is that, “She must be seeing someone else because I haven’t heard from her." or even "I wonder how she's doing." or "Dag! This play-off game is good, the Heat going to make the finals! I just know it!" (smile)
The man doesn’t automatically know to make the first move. I’ve said it time and time again: We live in a day and age where women are bold, if not bolder than men, so men are accustomed to interested parties calling first, texting first, asking them on dates first, and any other firsts you could imagine…that’s just the world we live in. Get used to it! Don’t play games…especially with your heart!! Communicate! Allow someone to hear where you’re coming from. Whether they agree or disagree you’ve taken the first step towards healthy, active communication. You’ll never resolve issues resting on an assumption that being silent will change a situation. All great changes occur with voices, speeches, public debates, marches, signs, movements!
Challenge yourself to the Communication Movement. Address issues and concerns in a non-confrontational manner. Every issue doesn’t have to be an attack or a negative encounter. Be creative and explore options to help another person, at the very least, empathize with your feelings and concerns.
Good luck in Love!