Music!

Isn't it amazing how music, a single song, can place you right back to the setting you were in when you first heard the song? Not only the setting, but that exact moment, emotion and even sometimes conversation you had! Powerful! 

Music brings it back! It takes you there. Doesn't matter if it was a good memory, great memory, bad memory, or sad memory...hearing the music...that song places you in that moment all over again! 

xoxo,

Just a Lame Excuse!

"I don't want to get married!" 

That's usually just a lame excuse to curb the pain, frustration, and/or utter disdain for a pathetic situation you've found your self in! Especially when your Significant Other, or anyone else you've been dating, has not proven to be 'marriage material'! 

So...what do you do?! You sike yourself out! You attempt to fool yourself and anyone else that'll listen!

"I don't think marriage is for me!"

"I'm loving my life now, I don't want to get married and change everything!"

Oh...but when you have that ONE! ...the line does change! Remember every ending is just the start of a new beginning! 

Good luck in Love,

Pervert or Sugar?

Is age really just a number? Can you truly embrace and relate to someone decades apart in age from you on a romantic level?  Will you have regrets further down after being apart of a relationship where age is, in fact, a factor?

In this dating game, especially after a LEGAL age of twenty-one, you are likely to meet someone a little bit older or younger than you, or possibly a whole lot older or younger than you! When you're the older of the two and your mate is half your age, you're looked at as a pervert for basically dating a "child". Some may even look at you as if you're taking advantage of the younger person because of your experience and age. When you're the younger of the two and your mate is half your age, you're looked at as being manipulated or taking advantage of, but in some instances you're praised for making a come-up! Possibly gaining a "sugar-momma" or "sugar-daddy" because of the apparent age difference, and assumed increased income bracket that should be present.  

I had a friend whom dated an obvious older man. They dated for the better parts of her life. Now, ten-plus years after she's been with him; she feels robed of her youth. He was older, so his ideals of fun, entertainment, and excitement were much different than hers. Because he was older, the more financial provider, and clearly the more experienced in life; she looked to him for advice, assistance, and leverage which now, costs her years of her life!

Same situation with a guy I knew that dated an older woman. She was financially stable, had her own place, was "grown", took care of him. Let's face it; for a 22 or 23 year older, that's a come up! He enjoyed that life, that is...until he didn't! By the age of 25 he felt trapped and miserable. He wanted out!

I had a friend that dated a much, much younger girl. Yes, she was of LEGAL age, and even had kids, but her circumstances and mind were immature. He enjoyed the "look" of having a younger broad on his shoulder but after awhile her immaturity weighed on him and he wanted out!

A lady I knew dated a younger guy. She enjoyed the "Cougar" title at first but after awhile she felt like a nagging mother asking him to pick up behind himself, taking care of him, etc, etc, etc.

I'm not saying this is the case all the time, or with each situation, but, I wonder...

Is age really just a number? Can you truly embrace and relate to someone decades apart in age from you on a romantic level?  Will you have regrets further down after being apart of a relationship where age is in fact a factor?

Confirmation❤

When you love someone, you show them that love, not just say it! For me; I always say, if you love someone, treat them the way YOU, yourself, want to be treated! I received confirmation today! 

"'And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.' This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31)

Maybe I already knew this scripture, or maybe I already lived by this scripture, but there's no greater feeling of your convictions than having confirmation. Love means seeing yourself in the person you love. Placing yourself in their shoes, and saying, "would I want this done, said, or given by me?" "is this my expectation?" "how would I feel if I received this?" 

All those questions should rhetorically be considered when you deal in love!

I love, love! At this point in my life there's nothing I want more than love. God's love for sure...and the rest shall be added!

xoxo,

Khrystian Nichole

ABFF 2013!

Day 1 

Loving the luxury and solitude! I'm having a blast! The American Lounge offers complimentary chair massages, drinks, snacks, pictures, wi-fi, and charging stations! Miami beach....nothing more to say! It's like my beach home, away from home! My hotel today, the Surfcomber, I'm LOVING! The room is spacious, everyone is friendly, if you need ANYTHING they get it, footsteps away from the beach, lounging by the pool, my room is right off the elevator. Today, I've networked and met a few film makers! Their films will be showing this week. I've also met some spectators...this one lady told me she won an all-expense trip here, hotel stay, $1000, ect. She said she always enters contests, and happened to have won this one! Ah-mazing, I thought! I never knew in those contests; you could ever actually WIN! Keep eyes and ears open for Full Circle. It's an independent film from a promising writer/director! You go boy! I'm enjoying my first day! And that massage at the Ritz in the American Lounge hosted by American Airlines wasn't too bad either ;-)

Day 2

Nice complimentary tea and coffee! My only complaint against the hotel is that they told me my resort equipment (towels, chair, umbrella) would be available by 8...turns out it's actually 9...and at 9 there was still no one available, even though I was able to sit on the chairs they'd put out, there weren't towels so, who really wants to get wet?! Lol 

I have two workshops today! Excitement!

The first, The Art of Voice Acting, disappointed me slightly since Cree Summer wasn't apart of the panel as previously advertised. However, the other artists were great too! I met the first black voice of the Joker from the animated series, he's also Barney Rubble, the red-neck white man from Cleveland Show, Lester, and a plethora of others. His name is Kevin Michael Richardson. There was also Louie, the alligator from Princess and the Frog, Mr. Michael Leon-Wooley, whom have a hilarious story of a voice-over ad he had to do. Can't share it with you because he's saving it for Leno! Good luck friend and congrats in advance! Lol! All in all; that panel was informative, funny, entertaining, and I'm grateful for the nuggets of advice they threw out! 

Best Man Holiday was my next workshop and it was not surprisingly packed!! Morris Chestnut, Sanaa Lathan, Nia Long, and Malcolm D. Lee all were interviewed by Shaun Robinson about the two year process of getting the film completed.

Afterwards, I went to dinner with friends and watched the White Hot Miami Heat beat the beloved Spurs in the championship game! Whoo Hoo!!! The energy was Outstanding from the arena to the streets! Parties everywhere! We ended up at a rooftop party dancing the night away :-)

 

 

Day 3

I lounged on the beach and allowed the sun to kiss my skin. Downtime for the majority of the day. Just the ocean and the staff of the Ritz serving these refreshing smoothie shots, or samples. 

Later that evening I attended a private VIP reception sponsored by American Airlines and hosted by Regina King. They served up wine and appetizers! The crabcakes were ah-mazing! There I mingled and met several different people from all over in the industry and out including, but not limited to; Sallie Richardson, Bill Duke, Jawn Murray, and Dondre Whitfield all while still receiving chair massages!

After the two hour reception I met up with friends to attend the HBO Comedy Wings competition where four comics: a gay man, two other men, and a woman competed to earn a spot on. Why, you ask do I mention the man being gay; because it was the basis of his comedy act! Lol! Consequently, the woman, Zainab Johnson won! Look out for her as she's representing for the ladies!! The comedy show, by the way was hilarious and I commend all four contenders for their journey! 

Day 4

This was another beach day for me! I enjoy the relaxation of the sun, sand and waves! Besides, I had to recover from the heavy networking and totally out of the box persona I had unleashed the night before. 

After being drained from the sun I attended a day party where, I was ready to go before I got there! Let's face it; I'm so over the crowded club full of pretentious people I don't know, drinking, dancing and pushing through a crowd! I'm just beyond it. No offense to those that enjoy that scene. 

Day 5

I fully enjoyed the amenities of my balcony suite at the Ritz and spent my morning into the evening lounging at the pool. I'd dip in every now and again. I met a man, an older gay man whom referred to me as, "Gorgeous" that gave me quite a bit of history and the happenings of South Beach than i bargained for. He was a pleasurable companion to lounge with. My evening was spent touring South Beach and the greater parts of Miami on a hunt for photo ops with my own personal photographer LOL.  Notably Brickell where I drank martini's at the Blue Martini.

Day 6

I bid adieu to South Beach and headed home just minutes away from the championship parade. If only my thinking cap would've been on; I would've taken a later flight lol! However, my ride home was good with the exception of the lady that sat next to me smelling of sour cream! Once back in Houston, as fate would have it, the same kind traveler whom I met on the shuttle heading to Miami, the same kind traveler that allowed me to skip the check-in line with him since he was a pass holder, and the same kind traveler that was heading to the same festival as I, is the same kind traveler that I met back up with in the parking lot to pick up our cars! We exchanged our experiences with the ABFF and discussed highs and lows and means of improvements, and decided that we'd keep in touch in preparation for next years film festival!

6 months

Well, as usual, I'm checking in with you all to see how your year is going! We're six months in to 2013! Are you excited? Are you inspired? Have you remained focused?

For me...to be honest; this has been a wretched six months! A devastating six months! Six months full of change, revelations, realizations, heartbreak and heartache!  

So, 2013 has been all about moving forward and leaving things in 2012, and for a lack of better words; I've been forced to do just that! Godspeed...there will be better days ahead! 

Stay prayed up! Listen for God's word! Move when He says! Keep faith!

That's all we can do! I pray your six month check is going well and you're maintaining our New Years Resolution!

xoxo, Be Blessed

Put the spoon down, and walk away from the freezer!

Lord, Jesus please help me to put the spoon down and not want to eat ice cream first thing in the morning!

The phat girl inside of me wants to tear into this Moo-linium crunch! You know the one. It has bits of chocolate, caramel, almonds, and pecans all wrapped and smoothed into vanilla ice cream! 

I rebuke that spirit of temptation! 

I should eat a balanced breakfast instead of ice cream because Lord only knows I don't want to spend my days and nights of my vacation running on a track, although that would appear to be the "right" thing to do! 

Pray for me! The Spirit is willing, but my Flesh shole' is weak!...in this moment that ice cream is calling me!