Okay ladies and gentlemen: Over the age of 25, you're NEVER really single. You may not be in a monogamous relationship, but as much as when you first meet someone, you proclaim, "I'm single!" You're NOT! There are loose-ends, off again-on again relationships, honey dips, cutty buddies, booty calls, "friends", and we can't forget the oh-so-popular PROVERBIAL rebound! Call them any name you want, other than "significant other", but trust me; you have them. And I say them, because for some of us; there are more than just one!
This person, to whom you are actually involved with (no matter how infrequent) is the person(s) that you ignore the moment you call yourself trying to assume a new relationship with someone else. They are the person, more than likely, that doesn't know about your infatuation with the new "boo". They are usually last to find out, especially when it comes to just how serious you are with the new "boo". Heck, sometimes they don't find out until the facebook photoalbum of your nuptials!! EGAD!
You may engage the loose-end or elude to the fact that you've taken an interest in someone other than them (and by that I mean through ignoring calls, not so available behavior, irritability, any bizarre changed behaviors, inadequaces in bed, or just totally not into them in bed, etc.,) however, you still continue to dangle the bait (call every now and again, send a nude pic, send a "lovely" email or text informing them of how much you love, admire, respect and miss them, evasiveness, ommission of details, treat them to brunch, drinks, etc.)...because let's face it...you don't know how far you'll actually get with your new "boo". They may turn out to be so totally not the one, and rather than risk being...dare I say it...ALONE...you string your loose-end along for the ride. Is this fair? I think NOT, but is it realistic...mos DEF!
Speaking to one of my married friends, I indulged her in this conversation of witts...shortly. A great catch...sure they're out there, they may even be "single", but I'm sure behind EVERY "single", "available", "great catch" there is a loose-end that needs to be tied up (knotted, cut, and dead-bolted pulease!) at least before you indulge into a fresh and new relationship. Take it from me; tested, tried and true, it tremendously saves on confusion, ackwardness, hurt feelings, long-term issues and the inevitable break-up.
GOOD dating is so enjoyable, fun, motivating, and ALL that other good stuff, and NO!, please don't tell each person you date about the other person/people you date (that's just plain old goofy!) You date as many as as often as you like...umm hello?! Take it from me! However, when you change the game and make it into a monogamous relationship, your loose ends need to be cut off.
Single?! Be single...the test to see if you're REALLY single or not; is if you don't have ANY explainatioms to give to NOT one person! But guess what?! After 25! You're NEVER really single...unless of course you live in cave and haven't ever had any type of relationship in you're life! Go figure! " (wicked grin)
Happy Not Really "Single" LOL!
Monday, June 28, 2010
Write 'Em Down!
Goals! How many of us have them?! Hopefully, we all do. Take some time to write yours down. Watch how quickly that small affirmation, can begin to offset and turn some things around for you. God gives us the desires of our heart, so surely what's for you is for YOU! (my mom's favorite thing to say) This world is BIG and GRAND! There's room enough for everyone's success!!
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There's your dose of positive energy from me to you! Take it! Run with it! It's your's! Ignite!
Here's to chasing your DREAMS!
XOXO,
Khrystian Nichole
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There's your dose of positive energy from me to you! Take it! Run with it! It's your's! Ignite!
Here's to chasing your DREAMS!
XOXO,
Khrystian Nichole
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Happy Juneteenth!
Juneteenth, also known as Emancipation Day, is a holiday in the United States (primarily Texas) honoring African American heritage by commemorating the announcement of the abolition of slavery in Texas in 1865. Abraham Lincoln actually issued the Emancipation Proclamation on September 22, 1862, with an effective date of January 1, 1863. Of course the slave owners ignored the law and order given and Texas was resistant to the Emancipation Proclamation.
June 18 is the day Union General Gordon Granger and 2,000 federal troops arrived in Galveston, Texas, to take possession of the state and enforce the emancipation of its slaves. On June 19, 1865, legend has it while standing on the balcony of Galveston’s famous Ashton Villa, Granger read the rights and emanicipation for the slaves. To me, it's Black Folks 4th of July!
Happy Juneteenth! Live! You are FREE (in a sense lol)!
Signed,
Miss Juneteenth 1997
*Shout out to Uncle Buddy's Used Cars* ( I was a spokesmodel for them in 1997 and shot a commercial!
June 18 is the day Union General Gordon Granger and 2,000 federal troops arrived in Galveston, Texas, to take possession of the state and enforce the emancipation of its slaves. On June 19, 1865, legend has it while standing on the balcony of Galveston’s famous Ashton Villa, Granger read the rights and emanicipation for the slaves. To me, it's Black Folks 4th of July!
Happy Juneteenth! Live! You are FREE (in a sense lol)!
Signed,
Miss Juneteenth 1997
*Shout out to Uncle Buddy's Used Cars* ( I was a spokesmodel for them in 1997 and shot a commercial!
Word to the Wise
::Take Heed to those that whisper I love you in one ear and shout I hate you in the other!
Friday, June 11, 2010
Life is Short!
Life is too short, therefore you must:
Live, Learn, Love, Laugh Out Loud, and Lose Track of Time!!!
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
SG Gems::
Part Deux!
15. If you play in the mud you're going to get dirty
-Stay away from the so-called rudeboys, bad boys, or any of the other endearing terminologies we've given them. Just like the old saying; you can't turn a hoe (whore) into a housewive...it remains the same! They're FUN! That is all!
16. Be Dora the Explorer
-Have an exciting date with your city. Go with girlfriends or alone. Tested, tried and true; it's better to go alone!
17. Letting go of past relationships isn't saying I hate you; it's saying, I love me!
-Ladies, leave the exes alone; it's a reason why you're NOT with them. Stop siking yourself out.
18. Being alone is perfectly ok, as long as you're NOT lonely.
19. Don't block your blessings!
-Try to be a nice, inviting person! It's not you against the world, okay?! Don't openly male-bash! Don't take personal frustrations (which nine times out of ten; we cause ourselves) and use them as a conversation peice. Please, please, please for the love of ALL things Louis Vuitton; DO NOT air your dirty laundry! Also, wait on the ring. Don't be out wearing a fake (or real) diamond on your left ring finger. Mr. RIGHT, just saw you wave across the room with that left hand...and sadly kept on walking. :)
20. Be an assest not a liabiltity!
Time in and time out I say it here on my blog first-LEARN something! be a better you; and not for anyone, but yourself!! Have something positive to offer to any relationship!
***Enough*** Hope you've enjoyed my Khrystian tid-bits!
See Part 1 of Single Girl Gems:: here~
http://khrystiannichole.blogspot.com/2010/04/single-girl-gems.html
15. If you play in the mud you're going to get dirty
-Stay away from the so-called rudeboys, bad boys, or any of the other endearing terminologies we've given them. Just like the old saying; you can't turn a hoe (whore) into a housewive...it remains the same! They're FUN! That is all!
16. Be Dora the Explorer
-Have an exciting date with your city. Go with girlfriends or alone. Tested, tried and true; it's better to go alone!
17. Letting go of past relationships isn't saying I hate you; it's saying, I love me!
-Ladies, leave the exes alone; it's a reason why you're NOT with them. Stop siking yourself out.
18. Being alone is perfectly ok, as long as you're NOT lonely.
19. Don't block your blessings!
-Try to be a nice, inviting person! It's not you against the world, okay?! Don't openly male-bash! Don't take personal frustrations (which nine times out of ten; we cause ourselves) and use them as a conversation peice. Please, please, please for the love of ALL things Louis Vuitton; DO NOT air your dirty laundry! Also, wait on the ring. Don't be out wearing a fake (or real) diamond on your left ring finger. Mr. RIGHT, just saw you wave across the room with that left hand...and sadly kept on walking. :)
20. Be an assest not a liabiltity!
Time in and time out I say it here on my blog first-LEARN something! be a better you; and not for anyone, but yourself!! Have something positive to offer to any relationship!
***Enough*** Hope you've enjoyed my Khrystian tid-bits!
See Part 1 of Single Girl Gems:: here~
http://khrystiannichole.blogspot.com/2010/04/single-girl-gems.html
Monday, June 7, 2010
~The ONE~
I think I've finally come to a conclusion that you only need ONE! ONE. A single, solitary numero uno ONE time chance at any and everything.
Stay with me here, because I'm almost positive I'll have some naysayers. However; I'm sticking with my conclusion. I'm sticking with the definitive ONE!
Think of the possibilities!
You really, if you think about it, only need or are required to need only ONE chance to play the winning lottery ticket and win millions! You only need ONE time to change you're life and give it to God! You need but ONE time to fall in love to know that person's the ONE! You need ONE great opportunity in life to catapult your career into something great! That ONE meeting is the chance you get to prove yourself. The ONE time you open your mouth for the first time is the ONE time everyONE forms an opinion about you!
ONE is the amount of time you are born and that you die! ONE lifetime! It's also the only time you'll have your first and your last! It's the only ONE of its kind. The first and only beginning and ending! ONE! Tyrese Gibson sang a song about it that I love! ONE! It matters what you do with it!
Seriously, what you do with that ONE and only chance or time is detrimental. It can't be taken lightly! You either maximize your moment, or you crumble! You get ONE; it's up to you to take control of it. Make it your ONE moment to shine as bright as a shining star.
All you need is ONE! What have you/are you going to do with your ONE?!
Here's to making the ONE count~
Khrystian Nichole
Stay with me here, because I'm almost positive I'll have some naysayers. However; I'm sticking with my conclusion. I'm sticking with the definitive ONE!
Think of the possibilities!
You really, if you think about it, only need or are required to need only ONE chance to play the winning lottery ticket and win millions! You only need ONE time to change you're life and give it to God! You need but ONE time to fall in love to know that person's the ONE! You need ONE great opportunity in life to catapult your career into something great! That ONE meeting is the chance you get to prove yourself. The ONE time you open your mouth for the first time is the ONE time everyONE forms an opinion about you!
ONE is the amount of time you are born and that you die! ONE lifetime! It's also the only time you'll have your first and your last! It's the only ONE of its kind. The first and only beginning and ending! ONE! Tyrese Gibson sang a song about it that I love! ONE! It matters what you do with it!
Seriously, what you do with that ONE and only chance or time is detrimental. It can't be taken lightly! You either maximize your moment, or you crumble! You get ONE; it's up to you to take control of it. Make it your ONE moment to shine as bright as a shining star.
All you need is ONE! What have you/are you going to do with your ONE?!
Here's to making the ONE count~
Khrystian Nichole
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