M.O.V.E.

Don't allow being in a rut define or dictate your lifestyle! Terri McMillian tweeted something very similar to this and I totally agree! Sometimes when we lose a job, a family member, status in life, etc. it can and will cause you to get into a rut. I like to call it a funk! Sometimes your mindset can cause this funk. It doesn't always have to be a loss, sometimes we have our own private battles within our minds, bodies and spirits! I'm here today to say, MOVE!

Motivate yourself out of your funk. Concentrate on the GOOD and POSITIVE in your life!
Organize your thoughts. Contain them. When you feel negativity creeping in; dismiss those thoughts, feelings or desires! Think happy thoughts. Read a scripture or say a prayer. Make it your business to focus or the "happy" of life regardless the circumstances surrounding you, or that you're standing in the center of!
Value yourself! YOU matter to someone, somewhere! No matter how point-less, worth-less, or inefficient you feel; understand that your purpose is far greater than anything you could or will imagine! Know there is MORE to life than what we are seeing!
Emerge yourself in positive change! Hustle-up onto good fortune. Create opportunities of happiness! Then, and only then, will you begin to see the rainbow at the end of your storms!

No one is beyond cloudy days, thunderstorms, and natural disasters, however; it's all about your recovery!

XOXO,
Khrystian Nichole

In the Words of Boris...

Boris Kodjoe, whom most of us remember from the cable series, Soul Food, began a twitter topic titled; How to be a Man.  If you at all follow my blog, you undersatnd that my position has and will always be that; only a man can teach a man how to be a man and vice versa for women.  Not only is Boris Kodjoe a gorgeous man, he seems to have a genuine heart and a kind spirit.  He has a lovely marriage to Nicole Ari Parker, and together they have a beautiful family. (side-note) Boris and Nicole Ari met on the set of Soulfood, and their parents actually initiated, or I should say, encouraged their union!

After his twitter rant on the topic, he made certain to clarify that he is, "...no expert but, it's how I do it."  I wanted to share these with you.  His ideas were definitely on point, and conveyed precisely what my definition of a great man would be.  Here's his take on, How to be a Man:

*In bed, take care of your woman first. When she's satisfied you are DA MAN!!!

*Communicate without cursing. You don't need to curse to make a point. Cursing shows lack of substance.

*Get your passport and travel. A man needs to see the world.

* Know how to cook and clean. It'll show her that you don't need her but that you WANT her.

*Fix or build something with your hands. It'll show her that you are capable of taking care of a home.

*Laugh at yourself. A woman likes a man who doesn't take himself too serious.

*Embrace your imperfections.

*Stay in shape. It'll show her that you care about yourself and therefore are able to care about her.

*Take care of your responsibilities. Anything less is unacceptable. A boy is irresponsible, not a man.

*Open her door and pull out her chair. It shows her that you honor traditional values. Trust me, she will do the same.

*Be present! Take her in with your eyes and ears. Your attention will make her feel loved and she won't ever nag you.

*Read a fucking book! (Sorry, violation of 'no cursing' rule) But seriously, ignorance is a major turn-off. Book on tape will do.

*Have an ambition. You don't need to be rich but you need to show direction and motivation. Keep a job!

*Last one for today: Treat a woman the way you would want your daughter to be treated. Anything less is unacceptable.

There you have it...in the words of Boris!  I admire men AND women whom value their relationships and motivate others to do the same.  It's refreshing and enlightening... Thoughts?

Khrystian Tidbit

Everyone is NOT like you, all you can do is pray and move on.